telling the children

[makeminearose]

Help i need help and im hoping anyone can give advice

how do i tell the children about the split without sounding nasty or bitching about their dad?

What do i do.the xp has threatened bankruptcy due to his debt... im frightened me and the girls are going to end up homeless any help much appreciated....

First of all, I think I would want to know what the deal is regarding the debt. Your local CAB can point you in the right direction for help and advice. There is a free, national debt line too, which might be able to help:

www.nationaldebtline.co.uk/

The best way to tell your kids would be both of you doing it together. Agree what you're going to say in advance and be prepared to answer questions (depending on their ages).

And just try really, really hard not to slag off their dad. My DF left my DM for her best friend and my DM, bless her heart, never slagged him off to us. It must've nearly killed her, but she bit her tongue.

If only the xp has decided its best not to visit the house "he needs space to think" his words so think im gonna b doing the talking on my own to the children ill check out the website tho thank u

Happy to report the dc took the split news well and the threat of bankruptcy seems just that at the moment an empty threat...