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Should I just let this friendship go now

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lakia · 14/07/2012 09:17

Ds has been mates with one particular lad since starting school.
They are now aged 11 and starting secondary school this september.
I have often wondered if its just me that has kept them together really as its always been me that has asked the mate over to our house and taken him out with ds spent money on them etc.
I have also minded him whilst his mom has been at work for several days during school holidays.
The invites back from her have always been seldom.
Her ds is quite confident and not shy unlike my ds who can be very anxious and avoid social situations.
ds recently went on a holiday with his mate and ds being how he is didn,t settle and we ended up collecting him.
Although his mate seemed sort of okay about his going home early I am pretty sure that he probably had a moan to his mom.
I have noticed for the past year that ds's mate seems to be more interested in spending time with another lad at school and have sort of seen him drift away from ds a bit.
I am trying hard to build ds's confidence and to encourage him to build new freindships.
Ds does have friends at school but he only sees one or two out of school again with me inviting them over though he doesn,t live close enough to just call on them.
Ds's mates mother has not asked for help during the holidays coming up, she could have quite easily have soprted herself out I know but am wondering if she is distancing the relationship as she sees her ds drifting from mine.
Its also now a tricky age as of course they are getting too old for mom to arrange invites but I am really not sure how I prevent ds from spedning all of his time on his own.
Anyway I hope I have not rambled on but should I just let this one friendship go now and stop the inviting.
Whewn I invite I usually invite by text and sometimes I am lucky if she answers anyway.

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Nevercan · 14/07/2012 09:42

I would let it go. They will make new friends soon enough and it doesn't sound like they are very forthcoming wih invites

bubble30 · 15/07/2012 00:17

I would let it go too. When I was growing up I had a silmilar experience. Friends with a girl since we were 4 and then at secondary school a new girl started and my friend became best friends with her. I wouldn't try and force the friendship - just let it take its natural course maybe. They may remain fiends but just not as close like me and my friend did and now we are best friends again.

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