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Do you give your toddler a dummy?

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Dunnyjo · 01/03/2006 14:56

This afternoon i have been searching high and low for my nerly 2yr old sons dummy.(still cant ind it!) Just wondering is this the time to stop giving it to him? He does not use it all he time, just for his afternoon nap and night sleeps. ok sometimes he still has it early mornings when he is still in sleep mode. Do you think i should stop or does it really matter? He is crying for it and i have given up looking

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mythumbelinas · 01/03/2006 15:00

In exact same position as you .. dd is 2yo, dummy just for afternoon nap and at bedtime .. would love her to be off it, but she demands it 'mummy, dummy now!' She has 4 of them!

pablopatito · 01/03/2006 15:17

DS is 10 months old and only has a dummy when he is in his cot. I'm not sure if it is a good idea or not. It makes him go to sleep very quickly but he wakes up 2 or 3 times in the night crying and I have to go in and put his dummy back in his mouth which normally always puts him straight back to sleep. I don't know whether he would go back to sleep anyway if he didn't rely on a dummy, or even if he would wake up crying at all if he didn't rely a dummy.

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P0SSUM · 01/03/2006 15:43

no. i used one to settle her for the first couple of months and never let her fall asleep with it because i didnt want to be in the position of having to get up to plug her back up during the night, and also because i hate the sight of kids walking around with dummies in their mouths. also, the teeth thing. lots of kids get away with having one for years and end up with straight teeth, some dont. then again there is always the thumb.....

i dont see the harm tbh if its used only for naps. you could always take the psychological approach and have him bury it, or leave it for the 'dummy fairy' or something. but you'll have to get a new one first

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 01/03/2006 15:43

Yes. Ds2 is almost 2 and has a dummy.

expatinscotland · 01/03/2006 15:43

yes. she has one for bed.

fastasleep · 01/03/2006 15:46

{shock] the shame, you're all such terrible terrible parents, terrible. There should be a law passed making all dummies illegal!

mine sucks his thumb when tired and asleep... how is that any different? And why would I want him to stop? It makes him happy and it's not like he's sat there eating doughnuts or something :)

Bozza · 01/03/2006 15:49

No never bothered with them.

7up · 01/03/2006 15:56

yes

Mazzystar · 01/03/2006 15:59

my ds second word was "dum" ( i suppose i could have been worse)

jessicaandrebeccasmummy · 01/03/2006 15:59

yes... 19 month old like the rest of you has hers for sleeps only. Dummy and duck duck are a sleep cue for Jess.... im not willing to take it away just yet.

Becky is 18 weeks and has a dummy.... only to settle when fractious really, has it to go to sleep but it is out within minutes of her being asleep and she doesnt wake for it during the night - slept thorugh 12 hours straight from 8 weeks.

SPARKLER1 · 01/03/2006 16:00

No - thankfullly, my dds were never interested them.

IamBlossom · 01/03/2006 16:32

DS 18 months has one for sleeping and in the car, cos i can't disctract him when driving if he whinges. I am so rigid about him only having it at these times he hands it to me when I go into his bedroom/arrive at destination. I don't likethem, and wish I had never let him have one but I would be lying if it didn't make sleep time amazingly straightforward, and peace in the car is fantastic. I am adamant that he doesn't have it at any other time though, as i hate the sight of babies with them in their mouths and they do hinder speech development. he doens't wake up for it in the night cos I go in and take it out of his mouth when he is asleep........

IlanaK · 01/03/2006 16:34

My 20 month old has one. He mostly has it for sleep, but if he is upset, I will give it too him. I never envisaged that he would still have one at 20 months, but I am loathe to take it from him. My 4.5 year old sucks his thumb at sleep time or when upset. What is the difference? And I am not going to take his thumb away!

sweetkitty · 01/03/2006 16:38

Neither of my DDs have taken a dummy, DD1 (19mo) always spat them straight back out again then she found her thumb and is a confirmed thumb sucker but only when she is tired/needs comfort.

DD2 (4 weeks) also been trying to get her to take a dummy as she is very sucky but she only wants a boob.

WestCountryLass · 01/03/2006 21:35

My DS had one til he was 3, once he was 3 we primed him for the parting of his dummy with bribery (having a party on a train). He gave up his dummy no problem on his borthday!

To be honest, if he is not having it all the time, is peaking well and all that jazz then I really wouldn't worry about it.

(DD on the other hand never wanted for one).

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