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DC2 due when DS1 is 15 months old.... Having a wobble

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Flowerydems · 04/07/2012 22:11

I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice, I'm coming up to my 12 week scan and when this one is due my DS will be 15 months and I'm starting to panic.

I know our DS is unlikely to be walking by this point as he was born with talipes and I just wonder have I ruined his babyhood for myself. Other than his foot problem he's a brilliant wee baby, sleeps through the night and I'm just starting to panic about having 2 under 2 you know? Would I be better with a sling than with a tendem buggy? How am I going to make them both feel equally loved?

Does anyone have any coping tips? I'm just starting to get myself a bit worried, just in time for bed too :(

xx

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Shybairns · 04/07/2012 22:23

Well, naturally its gonna be bloody hard work. But then you already know that.

Make sure you have plenty of Night Garden DVDs etc ready for DC1. You'll need him to be ale to chill out for an hour when your busy with the baby.

I would go for a Phil and Ted Buggy. (I'm selling mineWink) They are good while the baby is in the lying flat stage as you can keep an eye on the baby easily and DC1 can easily forget they are there and feel like they have your entire attention.

I really would set your expectations nice n low. My two were 22 months apart and for the first 6mths of DC2s life we litterally just survived each day. DC1 didn't notice he wasn't getting the best of me. He was cuddled and loved.

I put off things like potty training, and we didn't join any baby classes as such. But toddler groups where you can sit down and drink tea/eat biscuits and chat to other Mums where my life line. DC1 was happy with the different toys and other kids to play with and I got to share my feelings with other like minded mums. Which really helped my not to feel isolated.

Good luck with your pregnancy.

xMinerva · 04/07/2012 22:36

17 months between my dc.

The first 6 months will probably pass by in a blur. But it will be fine, honest.

Things that got me through:

A sling. Keeping baby in a sling meant I could still get on with stuff with dc1 that we did before the baby came along.

A box of "special" books. Once the baby was here, after a week or so, I left baby with his dad, just for 45mins/1 hour and took dc1 to a couple of charity/book shops and let him choose some books. These then got put in his "special box". This was the box that came out a lot at the beginning when the baby needed a BF. While I was feeding baby, dc1 would come over and cuddle up with one of his new books.

A double buggy. We did use the sling a lot but a double buggy was great for long day trips to the zoo etc. Meant baby could happily sleep in buggy and I could lift older one up to see animals/eat lunch together while baby slept.
Also great for getting them both to sleep in then being able to park yourself up in a coffee shop with a book for 30mins or so.

Lowering standards. As long as we had food in, clean dishes and clean clothes, most other things housework wise got neglected for a while.

Find a loose routine that works for you but don't stress if it goes tits up, as it may do that a lot in the beginning.

Get a slow cooker.

I could go on but i'll leave it there unless you have any specific questions.

I think tbh, this is a great age, for dc1 to get a sibling. Generally, too young for sibling jealously but by the time they are old enough to understand things more, they can't remember a time without their siblings.

Mine are 3yrs and nearly 2 years now and it gets easier every day. Now they both play together and keep each other amused, egg each other on keep out of mischief etc.

And fight like cat and dog but I won't tell you that yet Grin

xMinerva · 04/07/2012 22:39

Oh and our double buggy was a Baby Jogger City Select.

It was fab in that baby could lie flat in the carrycot but toddler could face me in the seat too so it felt like we where getting more one-on-one time while we where out and about. Once baby out of carrycot I had the dc facing each other which was great when I needed to run errands or get shopping done as they used to play with each other (mainly peek-a-boo with the large hoods). Then it turns into a single once toddler is walking more.

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