Not an appropriate conversation for mums in a school playground.

[sensesworkingovertime]

I don't think I'm being prudish, I like the odd gin and tonic/vodka/wine etc myself but I've never been into the 'out on the lash' culture.
For one thing, I've seen too many bad accidents due to drink in my line of work.

Anyway, conversation overheard in primary school playground this morning prior to kids going in:-

Mum A (loud voice) " How is Jan's head this morning, I bet she feels rough, I feel awful"
Mum B (just as gobby as A) " She's not good, mind you she did get absolutely hammered last night....."

By all means have a good time at the weekend, even get 'bladdered/hammered/lashed" if you want to but don't then have a conversation about it infront of my 10 year old, or other 6 to 10 year olds for that matter. What would we think of the teachers if they were talking like this infront of our kids, not much I'll bet.

Needless to say these mums are 'big' in the church community. Nuff said.

I'd rather be tighter than a gnats arse than like you suspect.

Like me? hehehe

Fancy a OP , go on I won't tell all the mummys in the playground

senses
take a step back...really...think about what you are saying. its really fine

is there something else about the conversation, that you have ommitted to tell us? that has upset you more?

because, you really have this out of proportion

senses, you are being rather silly. And no, it ain't comparable to a headteacher being drunk in charge of kids or smoking in assembly, fgs.

In regards to the headmaster comment. We have a rather pleasant pub at the back of our school with a large garden and play equipment.

Every year without fail on the last day if term at about 4pm all the teachers, all the parents and all the children grin sheepishly and pretend each hasn't seen the others pint/ fruitshoot.

In the 20 years school and pub have there not one parent has actually ever died from exploding in righteous indignation.

Hate to tell you but the teachers probably have had conversations like that within earshot of your darlings (not that I would EVER have been one of those teacher...)

I don't talk about getting hammered in front of my kids, that's just shocking. I talk about all the drugs I take .....

Actually when I looked round one school it was all double-entendres volleyed about amongst the staff as we were shown each class. Yes, cackling and carry-on-up-the-school-gates it was. They all had something of the night about them. Must have been a 'problem' school.

I thought they'd at least have been talking about bum sex.

Jeez. Hammered? They didn't even swear and say pissed or fucked???

Whoops, i've said things like that in front of my kids....and other folk's too come to think of it!! I'm pretty new to MN but on reading things i'm beginning to think i've a very 'chilled out' attitude on alot of issues!! Part of me thinks this is good...the other part thinks 'whoa, i don't get my knickers in a twist over x, y or z....does that make me ignorant/bad mum/unopionionated??

It's not Friday night yet, Smokin. Friday night seems a long way away.

Good grief Showtunes the OP'll be talkin like a busted washing machine after all them glasses . Still, as long as she doesn't talk about the state she was in within earshot of her kid(s) eh!!!!

I overheard a conversation like this once at my nieces school when DD was a baby. I grinned conspiratorially at them and thought 'thank god these women haven't turned into the rest of the stepford wife types around here' it cheered me up a great deal. These women were normal, 30 something, middle class I guess, nice women. I am glad they go out and get drunk together. Tis ace.

Hic.

I once heard a very similar conversation in front of year1 children. I was indeed horrified because I hadn't been invited

Round here the word "hammered" means to be beaten up or in a row, so if I'd overheard I likely would have thought something totally different.

Have a and relax a bit.

Oh dear Showtunes, have you drunk most of those glasses of wine? Naughty, naughty woman.......

I agree with the OP.

The normalisation of drinking to excess (and getting hammered is drinking to excess) in our culture is having a very negative impact.

Chatting about it in front of kids in this way means they think drinking to excess is acceptable when it isn't

It is a totally difference scenario referring to teachers drinking whilst they are working or chatting about their personal life whilst they should be working.

I feel pretty sorry for the OP, can't believe how much sarcasm and ganging-up there has been on here, makes me think of a playground full of ten year olds actually!

OP I see where you are coming from (though the bit about the church community was bound to rub some people up the wrong way)... I thought the same a few weeks ago when some very loud women were having a conversation along the lines of 'I'm going to f batter him, the f c, off with that f s again...' in front of a load of 3 year olds at our local toddler group. That is obviously a bit more extreme than your example, but the same principle - some people should think about where they are before opening their mouths.

Though most ten year olds will have heard far worse than your example on Eastenders and the like, no way of avoiding it really as drinking is such a big part of our culture.

I think I overhear far worse conversations.

Sometimes I want to cover up my 4 year olds ears when I hear f&%!ing this and f%$!ing that conversations going on, for fear he will repeat it.

I don't think what you overheard is that shocking though, is it?

Thanks for the support Queen, Fine and Sheep, for a minute there I was thinking I was totally at the mercy of a virtual lynch mob ready to string me from the nearest tree!

In my OP ( my second post went a bit crazee to try and make a point) I was in no way saying that anyone should not enjoy a drink or two or three, (shall I repeat that?) I WAS IN NO WAY SAYING THAT ANYONE SHOULD NOT ENJOY A DRINK OR TWO OR THREE. I thought I'd made that clear at the start? The point I was making is that I didn't think certain conversations were suitable infront of young kids. I mean one minute we are sending little Johnny into the 'how to keep your body healthy' and ' don't smoke or drink (too much)' lesson in Year 4 and the next thing they overhear mums/dads shouting about 'getting 'ammered' in the playground. Little Johnny is going to be a bit confused. These conversations are ten a penny on the street and on the bus, it really doesn't need to be brought into a playground. I know kids hear worse conversations, we do frequently, that's not really an argument to make it ok though is it?

The point I also tried to make is that I'd seen a lot of tragic accidents due to excess drink, basically young people paralysed for life,lost limbs, mashed brains or bleeding to death. Not pretty. Perhaps I should not feel sorry for such lost young lives? Would you, or would you just think 'well, they were 'avin a larf, getting 'ammered, so what? Your back -biting, snidey remarks, ganging up and name calling simply because you don't happen to agree with someone made my skin crawl. Some of you sounded so childish I was starting to doubt if I was on a website supposedly populated by grown women ( and men).

Lynch mob? Really?