10 year old DS - help me please asI seem to be crap at it.

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He is agressive, moody, unresonable, unprepared to compromise an inch, goes from 0-100 in one second at the slightest thing, I say black he says white, every meal time he acts like he is being tortured and takes ages to eat anything, he has one bite of sandwich at school lunchtime.

He's in year 5 and I know for the last three weeks they have been having endless tests galore at school (why they don't leave them alone FGS I don't know but that is another subject) and he's had it up to here with it all.

I try to make him what he likes and not be on his case and let he do what he likes but sheesh I give up! I tell him off also, but he just answers back till I flip my lid - god this all sounds terrible.

All fine at school, teacher says he's great and works hard and enjoys school.

I feel like I am handling a hot coal most of the day. Please help with some words of wisdom.

Only words I have are 'I know how you feel' My 10yo son is going through a very similar stage and I am left wondering where my lovely, bright and easy going little boy went

Sorry my post is no help is it, just know you are not on your own and I know a few other people in similar circumstances too. Seems to be hormonal with my son, I never expected hormones to cause problems at such a young age but am trying my best to let some of it go and not be so 'on his back' all the time. He has always been very mature for his age so seems like he is going to be going through puberty earlier too Hope some other posters have more words of wisdom on the best way to deal with it all. I definitely agree that pressure at school also makes it worse, pressure to fit in, pressure to do well (he is v v bright and this actually seems to add to his sense of being under pressure). Also I think it's tiredness and a need for a break but can't do much about that as not school hols yet and he seems set on not going to sleep at a reasonable time despite our best efforts to get him to bed on a night!

I too have a 10 year old ds and i could have written the same.

Sometimes he lovely, polite, chatty and fun to be around but more and more lately he's rude, aggressive, shouty, bangs around, swears, comes home late etc etc- i could go on!!

Then we'll have a showdown and he's all sorry blah blah blah but he's only sorry because he doesnt want any repercussions over his behaviour. Aarrgghhhhhh

My 13/15 year old dont give me this grief and also he would never ever behave this way infront of his dad, who he see's EOW.

Also, i agree tiredness plays a lot in his bahaviour!
Xbox gets turned off at 9pm but if for any reasen he's still awake at 10-11 then he's a nitemare the following day....

Signing in. DS2 (10) appears to have a switch where he goes from lovely to arsey in a split second. It can be like walking on eggshells. 'Go and get ready for school' is usually met with a meltdown.

He loves school and is doing well, and his teacher thinks he's lovely.

It's quite toddleresque really. I do ignore a lot of it. If he doesn't get ready for school he will be late. But by the time he has argued the toss, he could have got ready 3 times over!

Mine just expects the world to revolve around him and what he wants to do!! He gets that from his father

Do you have other DC? DS2 always kicks off if he thinks DS1 is getting more attention.

He has been vile lately as DS1 has had a Germany trip and moved schools so obviously it has been all DS1 at the moment.

Ive got 15 and 13 year old ds too so my 10 year old is the youngest....he definately kicks off if he thinks either of the other 2 get something that he hasnt.
But youngest see's he dad EOW and has done for past 9 years where as other 2 havent seen their dad for 8 years now, his choice! So infact youngest gets 2 lots of bday/xmas presents plus extra holiday a year etc but my older 2 never moan about it all.

The xbox has alot to answer for....

Oh good not just me then! Thanks.

I was thinking about putting the x-box in his room for the summer hols A - so he can have space and alone time B - stops him taking over the living room C - he can vent his frustration. I will take out controls etc at a reasonable time each night. Bad or good idea?

He just helped me cook a roast dinner and it was lovely. I like suggestion that the behaviour is toddler like, so will try and let it pass over my head, to a degree.

Roll on the summer hols!

Signing in.
Ds will be 10 on Wednesday and goes from lovely to horrible in 1 nanosecond.
He is moody, egocentric and answers back a lot.
No idea what to do, tbh.

Tbh i wish id never let my 3 boys have an xbox each....and my youngest 2 share a room so its a nitemare if 10 yr old kicks off and i ban xbox because his brother still plays his in the same room ...its a logistical nitemare!!
I loved it at first as they spent all their time upstairs and i had control of the tv downstairs
But my 15 yr old never leaves his room, he is very lazy!!
13 year old is ok _ he plays a bit of xbox but also goes out a lot and socialises.
The language my 10 yr old uses whilst playing it drives me nuts! Many a time ive gone up and unplugged it,,,,then he kicks off big time!!