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Are tantrums normal for toddlers?

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monkeytrousers · 28/02/2006 11:40

I'm only asking cos on another thread there are a few posters who've said their children have never had one. DS is 17 months and already has massive ones when he can't do something he's got his heart set on, like helping me stir a bowl of hot soup on the hob his own cooker but it's no substitute, or when he doesn't want to get into the car seat are typical examples. He's a lovely normal boy otherwise and is no trouble but am I doing something wrong?

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colditz · 28/02/2006 11:42

Normal.

ds didn't, but he is 3 and we don't have tantrums often and never have. This is not my parenting IMHO, it is the luck of the draw

Greensleeves · 28/02/2006 11:46

I have a 17mo boy too, he's GORGEOUS and cuddly and affectionate and sweet-natured and giggly - 99% of the time. His temper is ferocious. He has been known to pick up his dinner plate and throw the whole thing at the wall because his peas kept falling off his fork. He can do a mean snarl when thwarted. He does fling himself to the floor and scream, usually when both tired and angry, and if I say No to him he will often look around for something to pick up and throw, throw it, and then look at me triumphantly. He squares up to me and his daddy quite often and clearly believes he could take either of us. It's very funny but slightly worrying when I think of him at 3, and 5, and 15........

katyp · 28/02/2006 11:47

Definitely think it is down to personality, some have tantrums but they only last a short time and can be easily distracted/reasoned with. Some can go on for hours and hours..... (I've had both types!)

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Bozza · 28/02/2006 11:49

Well I'm hoping that they are normal . Actually I am sure they are normal but there are a few lucky parents like colditz who get away without them. My DS wasn't too bad. My DD (21 months) is shaping up to be worse.

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monkeytrousers · 28/02/2006 11:53

Thank god, what a relief! Lucky you indeed Coldtitz . Your baby sounds alot like mine Greensleeves, if he's told no he'll go look for the cat and hit her as if it's her fault. He hits us too, and then laughs - we try not to respond so he doesn't get any attention for it and our strategy for major tired tantrums is just to leave him to it but stay close and try a cuddle when he looks ameanable to one. He's a little adventurer though and learns very quickly!

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monkeytrousers · 28/02/2006 11:54

I can't stop him from playing with his tiddler either when his nappy comes off. Any tips anyone?

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Katemum · 28/02/2006 11:56

My ds has only had one that i can recall, instead he has always acted like a stroppy teenager, stomping about and slaming things around. Dd is a completely different matter and will throw a tantrum if things are not going exactly as she wants them to, and this happens many times throughout the day.

welshboris · 28/02/2006 11:56

I asked this at the weekend, DD is 17 months and has the temper of a street fighter!! It passes as quickly as it comes, then she smiles and says something so sweet that you wouldnt believe it was the same child

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Katemum · 28/02/2006 11:57

oh tiddler playing is also normal.

controlfreaky · 28/02/2006 11:57

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monkeytrousers · 28/02/2006 11:58

says something?! If DS is saying anything other than carcar, daddy, mammy, it's in Pingu language. Very long earnest passages it seems too.

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Katemum · 28/02/2006 11:58

WelshBoris your dd sounds just like mine. Ds is a sulker.

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monkeytrousers · 28/02/2006 11:59

tiddler fiddleing is his fave!

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FairyMum · 28/02/2006 12:00

Mine is 18 months and could really do with a 'toddler anger mngt course' at the moment. They do grow out of it. My older ones grew out of it around 2.5 yrs I think and are now quite calm little persons (saving energy for their teens no doubt)
Playing with himself? They all do. I would just let him. Mine always does in front of me, but never in front of strangers and they quickly realise it's a private thing.

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monkeytrousers · 28/02/2006 12:00

I sometimes wonder if it was my fault for having orgasms while pregnant - too much too young!

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welshboris · 28/02/2006 12:01

I really cant be mad at her though, her new saying is when she rocks her doll and says "sssh seeping"

awww i wanna go home now wwwwwwwwwwaaaaaaaahhh

Em32 · 28/02/2006 13:22

Um, want to laugh here. My ds has been having tantrums since he was 11 months (maybe he's just a drama queen). His are epic now he's 2. I have been having to time him out in his cot since about 18 months old and once he pulled the curtains off the wall he was in such a rage! However, he is also a very loving affectionate boy who now knows when to say sorry! You are not doing anything wrong!

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