1 vs 2

[Alabama100]

Okay so I have posted on here recently saying my nct group have made me feel like I am doing something wrong by only having dd. we did plan to have two but financially I just don't think we could do it even though child are would be free (mil).

Do you think I would regret no having two just based on financial reasons? Should we go for it because it will only be hard for a little while or will I end up regretting it?

Anyone been in this situation?

Shoud read child CARE not are.

I think if I were you I would try and focus on enjoying the one you have at the moment, if I remember correctly from the other thread your baby is only 7 months? This is not a decision you need to make now, and whatever you decide I am sure you will not regret it. There is no right or wrong!

7 months that's right....I am enjoying her so soo much but you're right I shoukdn't obsess too much, plus I'm in my late 20s so (hopefully) still have time on my side.

I regally didn't want any DC.Got married at 29 and fielded all the "when are you going to have children?" questions for years. Once I got to 35 people stopped asking (I think they assumed there was something wrong with me), but I certainly wasn't going to have a baby just because people thought I should.

When I was 36 ish I began to really want a baby. He's, now nearly 4. But I didn't want another one, even when all the friends I knew through him started having their seconds, and true enough, money was a reason.

Then when DS was 2, I started to really want another baby, as much for him as me and DH. She is now 8 months old.

The strongest feeling I have ever gag about his many DC I want is the one I have now - it's saying no more!

I guess what I am trying to say is that only you know what is right for you and your family, but also that may volve as your DC grows up, your life moves on...

Childcare is my biggest child related expense, but this hasn't stopped me having DC2, although until DC1 goes to school, the financial gain if going to work is minimal. Roll on Sept 2013!