Worried about DD starting nursery

[LaydeeCee]

DD had a visit to her new nursery this morning, we were there for an hour. There were my DD and two other kids visiting and they were in with children who already attend the nursery.
I had to leave the room for a quick meeting with the nursery teacher and the other parents and my partner stayed with DD.
My DD was playing with the water with two others for ages and they kept snatching the toys off her so she was getting upset,a member of staff came over (not a nursery teacher) and said my DD couldn't play because she wasn't wearing an apron (no one had explained this and there were only two aprons) so my DD got upset again and started a bit of a tantrum. Now if you explain things to her clearly, which is what my partner was trying to do, she stops her tantrums quite quick but this member of staff decided to tell her she wouldn't be allowed to go back to nursery if she didn't stop and to stop what she was doing or she would hurt herself.
Meanwhile I was in the other room talking to the nursery teacher explaining my concerns about DD's tantrums and all she said was not to worry about it a lot of children are the same and she would let me know how she was doing.

Surely someone who works with children should be able to explain properly to a child why they can't play instead of not explaining clearly then telling my DD she couldn't go back when she was upset, it just made her so much worse.

Maybe I'm overreacting but I was worried in the first place about her going to nursery because of her tantrums but this has made me even more anxious about her starting in September.

Why not give it a go for a few weeks and see if your dd is happy? I think it is normal to stress about tiny things when your first child is about to be looked after by someone else for this first time and you are right to worry about such things - if you don't, who will? However, remember that parents tend to let such things get out of perspective - keep an eye on your dd and give it a go.

I'm a bit surprised they only have 2 aprons for water play however I do think once the staff get to know your child they should be able to keep the tantrums to a minimum. Once they are all settled in they will quickly realsie that your daughter responds better to logical explanation. Also by that point your daughter will have a bettter understanding of the rules.

My dd is also starting nursery this August (scotland) and I am also a bit anxious she has low muscle tone and I'm terified that in a busy nursery enviroment they are not going to be able to keep her safe. She is unsteady on her feet and isn't very good at saving when she falls.

The thing is I can't let her know I'm nervous as she is very excited about being a big girl. Sorry for the novel guess I wanted to say your are not alone

Thanks for the replies, I guess I am worrying a bit too much I just don't like how DD was told she wouldn't be able to go back if she didn't stop, it just seemed unnecessary. Since we got home DD has said a few times she needs to go back and has been upset about what the staff member said.
DD has another visit in September before she starts properly so hopefully next time works out a bit better.

I agree it was unnecessary for the helper to say that. I'm sure if you keep reassuring your dd that the teacher says she is very welcome at the nursery and that she is going too have so much fun she'll forget about it soon enough.