DD has been invited to sleep over at her best friends house. She has never been to sleep over before and has known her friend for several years. I know both the parents and they are lovely people. However I feel DD is too young for a sleep over. I have also left DC at a party at her friends house before and returned to collect her having found many of the other parents still there drinking (a couple of whom were drunk).
Perhaps I am being overly cautious but I worry that other girls parents who are closer friends with her may also stay late for a few beers at the sleep over. It is this that makes me have reservations about letting her go.
The question is how to say no without upsetting the childs parents and by proxy DD relationship with girl. If I knew it would be just parents and girls invited for sleep over then that would be ok but I think this may be unlikely based on previous party experience with the family.
Honest advice needed please.......TIA