Poor personal hygiene in 8yr dd

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Im at my wits end,won't bathe,brush teeth etc.
She's started to sweat and smells. Have bought deoderant but she has to be told every day to put it on.
Didn't have a good visit to the dentist so have explained the importance of brushing day and night.
It's very shouty every morning as I have to force her to do everything.
She hasn't had any treats for 2 weeks and she doesn't seem bothered.
Any ideas?

Put her in the bath every night and stand over her to make sure she cleans her teeth.

She's 8, you're the adult, just make her.

Watching with interest as having similar problems with my 4 year old. Daily battle of wash your hands, clean your teeth, wipe your bum, wash your face, clean your body wipe your nose. I understand she's only 4 but she has zero awareness or concern despite being told/asked a hundred times a day.

I still bath my 8 year old (well i put her in there, make sure she washes and then i wash her hair), i still prompt her and watch over her when she brushes her teeth and i still have to remind her to wash her hands after she's been to the loo. I think 8 is still very young (too young to be able to remember to wash and clean teeth) though my dd is quite imature for her age (and luckily does not sweat yet).

Maybe try to explain why it matters (ie other people won't like it if she smells) and go out to choose some lovely smellies for her, ie shampoo, toothpaste and body lotion? Sounds like she sees it as a chore instead of looking after herself, so putting some fun and enjoyment into it might work?

I suppose I get sick of hearing my own voice. Have explained its not nice smelling,she doesn't seem to care.
She was gutted at Xmas when she got smelliest. Will try her picking her own.

You just have to keep supervising and on her case. She is still a child and won't bother if she can't see the reason.

Tbh it takes ages for some kids to "get it" -there are recurring threads on pre teens and teens about it.

Personally I still nag my 13 yr old and have berm known to get my 16 yr old our id bed if it's obvious he hasn't cleaned his teeth! He has learned that lesson though ass he hates being awoken at 11 pm if he's asleep!

My DP's DD (and DS to some degree though not as bad) is exactly the same and she is almost 11 and it really annoys me that you have to tell her 2 or 3 times every morning and evening before she will take any notice and have to stand over her nagging her to brush her hair properly otherwise she would just go without brushing either (and frequently does when not in my care) she also has to be told about washing her hands after almost every visit to the loo, she is also a stroppy little madam and gives abuse, dirty looks and back chat when asked / told to do so and sulks when you explain about how disgusting her personal hygiene is though it rarely changes anything. IMO she should not need telling by now it should be a combination of force of habit and a bit of pride but then when she lives with a bunch of lax slobs (they don't live with me) that make little effort ensuring the kids get ready properly I suppose its only to be expected. I was gobsmacked when DP's DS announced a few days ago that he didn't realise you were supposed to have a wash everyday!

My DS is 3 he's been made to brush his teeth and wash his face every morning and bedtime (if he's not having a bath) since getting his first tooth, he rarely needs telling now he just gets on with it and the occasion he forgets he certainly doesn't need telling twice. My 8 year old sometimes needs reminding but he's ASD and has poor memory.

My kids wouldn't get the chance to become lax or I would drag them to the bathroom kicking and screaming and do it for them if I had to I can think of nothing worse than poor personal hygiene and wouldn't want people thinking I was incapable of ensuring my kids were properly kempt.

When my ds17 was about 13 or 14 he thought he could trick me by wetting his hair instead of washing it. Of course I could smell it and see the oil so after many threats I washed it myself. Made him put his head in the handbasin and gave it a good scrub and rinse with probably colder- than -was-comfortable water. He is now very fastidious and I have to sometimes remind him that overwashing (more than 2 showers a day)doesn't do his dermatitus (sp?) any good.
I think the same will shortly have to happen to ds14.......

ok,will have to suck it up. will keep on with the nagging,hopefully she will turn a corner in a few years