How to stop yourself shouting STOP at manic toddler?

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My 21 month DD has recently become a tazmanian devil, into everything and stays still for a nanosecond. I could cope with that but it is moaning, whining and gurning that is testing my patience. I find it takes everything to sometimes not just shout STOP at the top of my lungs, as come late afternoon it is bloody annoying. I have tried ignoring it but she clambers up me and then as soon I pick her up, she wants down.

What are your trips? My patience is wearing thin....

Is she bored?
I would take her out somewhere she can get fresh air and be really active.
Nowt wrong with saying Stop to a toddler, imo.

Thanks. I did wonder this. We always get out and about in the morning, but have tended to be home in the afternoons due to the weather. I may get a rain suit and go into the garden for a wee bit in the afternoons. Mornings with her are fine.

But even if we do have a busy afternoon at home (making dens, painting etc). she gets a bit manic from from about 430 till bed time! (She has a nap from 1.30 to 3.30 so it is not over tiredness).

I have been saying stop at lot, but it is wanting to shout it at the top of my lungs that I am trying to avoid!

I find myself bellowing at DS far more often than I would like

The weather is definitely not helping. Nor is his refusal to wear waterproof clothing if we go out in the rain.

Still, I comfort myself that shouting once in a while is still better than slapping him, which I often want to do (in the heat of te moment) but never have. I have a very short fuse and it is a constant struggle to keep my temper.

I do find that even strapping him into the pram and going for a walk can help (if he is too manic to walk on his own) but your DD may not tolerate this! A change of scene / air is better than nothing!

I also use time outs, mainly for myself. Three minutes is usually long enough for me to calm down a bit although often I forget to implement them until the situation has already escalated.

I do always apologise to DS if I lose it and really bellow at him. I want him to know that it is wrong and that I'm working on it.

ah yes the dreaded witching hour between tea and bed

a wet suit would be a godsend in this weather, this is on sale at the mo for eg

My son is much older now but when he was kicking off I would take myself off to another place with a toy or puzzle and often his nosiness would create a calm and shared moment...ignoring does work...no eye contact, only say what you need to in a calm voice, remove them from your leg, don't repeat yourself and keep explaining/talking, say it once with their full attention and ignore from then...'I am leaving the room now because I do not like this noise...when you are finished I will be in 'room' and we can play a game or whatever you have thought of to do. It's more about being able to use a calm voice and respond the same way every time...the penny will drop!...failing that...time out on stair/mat/whatever and no eye contact after explanation...it's just trying to be as consistent in your response and action as you can be...
123 is very good too...use it for good things happening and then for expectations...it works. I still use 123 and my son is 11yrs old.
123 is also good for warnings...1 is good, 2 is warning they r too loud/not listening, whatever, 3 is gone too far and if you continue then there will be consequences eg time out, toy away, whatever...depending on situation. Thisis a good one for when you are out too because the practice at home makes being out more positive and less likely to escalate too far.

Good luck and keep taking those deep breaths xx