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Keeping grandmother out of baby's life?

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Kazine · 21/06/2012 20:20

When I was 17 I went through a difficult time where I felt like I wanted a sex change. I admitted this to my mum, who was supportive at first, but then turned nasty, and told me I was wrong to think it, and I eventually ended up getting verbal abuse from her and her husband (he said to me that just because I'd have a fake cock it wouldn't make me a man). I ended up self harming and it came out when she was drunk - she laughed at me and called me an attention seeker, and the next day she'd completely forgot I told her about it. She eventually kicked me out and said I wasn't welcome in her house again until I'd had psychiatric help.

I've tried to get on good terms with her again since then, as I have mental problems myself and decided that I'd take sympathy on her knowing she must want to be in my life again, but she messed that up again too, by making up lies to my father about things I'd said and done to try to cause trouble because she was jealous that I was living with my dad without any problems, when all that had happened when I was with her was arguments (started by her, she's unstable).

So it was after that incident I decided I would not bother trying to be in her life again - it's just too much hurt and trouble - my dad agrees, his marriage with her was hell because of her instability, and the fact she drinks too much.

Now, I might be pregnant, and regardless of whether I am or not, I'll probably be having a baby at some time in my life. I don't want her in my child's life because of what she's like, and I want to know whether I'm right to do this. Do grandparents have any legal right to see their grandkids? Would she be able to take any legal action against me in order to be able to see any child I do have?

Thanks,
Kaz x

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Tripped · 21/06/2012 20:24

No, they don't. She could try to take legal action, but grandparents in the UK have no basic rights with regards to their grandchildren.

The only way she could ever "win" in court would be if it could be convincingly demonstrated that excluding her from your child's life would be detrimental to him, and that's usually only because the grandchild has built-up an important relationship with the grandparent. More than just visits, etc - more like the grandparent was primary care-giver.

But in your case, no, you have nothing to worry about in that respect.

I hope it all works out for you and your child

Kazine · 21/06/2012 20:26

Thank you, Tripped :).

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