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should I say something about this

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crazedupmom · 14/06/2012 11:00

I know kids can be kids and that.
However ds walks to school with a mate on the mornings and they sometimes call for one or two other mates on the way.
Ds and his mate normally go on their scooters yesterday the mate was on his bike and ds was on his scooter.
They are aged 11 by the way.
On the way they had just called for someone so at this point there was the three of them.
Ds tells me that he fell off his scooter and banged his knee very hard and that the other two just carried on and left him and went on to call for another mate.
Ds tells me that he then slowly made his own way to school in alot of discomfort plus he said because they had taken a differnt route he wasn,t quite sure which way but he got there okay in the end.
He isn,t at school today as he was in alot of pain with his knee on waking up.
Obviously I would have expected ds's best mate to have looked out for him as I would expect ds to look out for his mate and am a bit disappointed.
Ds admittedly can be a little sensitive but he is now saying he doesn,t really want to go with his mate to school now because in his eyes his mate just left him without checking to see if he was okay.
Ds tells me that once at school he said to his mate well thanks alot to which his mate didn,t reply.
I know that kids get carried away and that but dh has said the other mother probably wouldn,t waste any time telling me if the roles were reversed.
Should I say something becasue of how ds is feeling about it or would I be making him look a baby.

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SummerRain · 14/06/2012 11:10

I wouldn't get involved in a kids disagreement, especially at that age.

Your son had a friend who turned out not to be much of a friend, it happens to most kids at some stage. At the end of the day, you either trust him to get to school without parental supervision or you don't.... whether his friends are with him is irrelevant and the decision should be made whilst considering the worst case scenarios. He was smart and resourceful and found his way there despite being injured and travelling an unknown route which is great..... however have you considered what would have happened if he'd been too badly injured to walk? Has he got a mobile to ring you in an emergency?

It's horrible for him that he found out what his so called friends were really like whilst he was in pain and probably a bit scared but at least he knows now and will never forget what they did, and will therefore know not to rely on these particular friends in future and will hopefully find some more reliable mates.

crazedupmom · 14/06/2012 11:20

The problem is that we are relying on this lad and his mom.
We don,t live in walking distance from the school whereas his mate does.
So the lads mom said that my dh can drop ds off at hers early in the morning and they can both walk to school from hers.
Its a help as me and dh are in work early so most of the time we are unable to take ds.
ds does have a mobile on him in case of an emergency.

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