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In shock, Unplanned Pregnancy, Help!

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tiddlerslate · 14/06/2012 10:24

I have two DD's aged 5 1/2 and 3 and as far as me and DH were concerned that was it, family complete. I'm also self employed and my business has really taken off in the past 6 months and I'm really happy about that.

I've just done a clear blue and its come up positive. I am petrified. DH doesn't want any more kids. He found the sleep deprivation really bad and he has said he can't do that again. He has a long commute and his job means long hours.

I have no idea how I feel about this. I am not sure I can go back to the baby years again. DD1 needs me a lot at the moment as she's the youngest in her school year and she struggles with tiredness and the pace of learning quite a bit. DD2 has just started sleeping through in her own bed and has potty trained herself!!!

I'm so annoyed with myself. I was on the pill but it gave me terrible migraines so I stopped taking it and we've used condoms. I know we had unprotected sex once about 4 weeks ago but my period turned up two days after this (cycle has been all over the place since having DD2) so thought I'd got away with it.

I've given all our baby stuff to my best friend who is due in 10 weeks.

I don't know what to do.

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Ice9116 · 14/06/2012 10:43

Take a deep breath - you need to find out for certain how pregnant you are in order to find out how much time you have to make this decision and then use all of it.

You have listed all the reasons why having the baby is bad - what are the pros?

If you decide to abort make really sure you can live with it as nostalgia now and then is fine but daily guilt is not - only you can decide.

FWIW in future I cannot get on with hormonal contraceptives at all but find the copper coil works really well.

expatinscotland · 14/06/2012 10:46

If he didn't want any more kids he should have had a vasectomy.

lovechoc · 14/06/2012 11:06

I hope you are okay..maybe have a chat with your DH about this, and see how you both feel. It may be that you can now picture life with three children? Good luck with whatever you decide, you'll make the decision that is best all round for you and your family xx

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tiddlerslate · 14/06/2012 11:10

thank you everyone.

I feel like such an idiot for not sorting out the coil after coming off the pill.

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Tangointhenight · 14/06/2012 11:26

This happened to my mum, family complete, and 8 years later she was pregnant. If she had aborted her my wonderful sister wouldn't be here today, please think carefully about your decision, think about how you will feel a few years down the line if you decide against this baby.you have to be sure. And don't let how your husband feels about it guilt you into doing something you don't want to do.

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