Oh for FUCKS sake.

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How the heck to deal with this?
DD (8yo) was attracting attention from a couple in the supermarket tonight. I turned to see what their shocked expressions were about.
She was doing the gesture for a blow job. (moving hand, sticking tongue in cheek in sync)
FOR FUCKS SAKE I don't need this. I hissed at her to stop and then ushered her away.
When we got home and I could deal with this calmer, I asked her about it. Apparently a Y6 boy showed her how to do it, and she embraced the comedy value - a few of the other boys were laughing at her. Now I'm sure she doesn't understand the implications - I've just told her it's unpleasant and not for children.
But what to do? Tell school? This boy is already a bit of a worry to school and I don't really want to add to the list of woes for him, but its not acceptable is it?

i dont really know what you should do, but

im not sure school can tell this boy off for summat your dd did out of school, but said she copied of said boy

I think it wold have to be something the boy himself did in school, for the teachers to get involved? Given that it is just a gesture

How would the teacher have the conversation with him??? would she demonstarte the gesture, to remind him what it is he did, but shouldnt be doing ?

I think, telling your dd not to do it will suffice

Oh dear! Defo talk to the school! That's really unacceptable that this boy should be showing such things! Where has he got it from?? Kids can be kids but that's too far off the mark! As a parent to DD4 i would not make an issue too much with her as she will soon forget all about it.. But certainly an issue with the boy.. That needs to be nipped in bud before he starts showing other kids other things.. Feel a bit sorry for him as clearly there is a parental issue with him somewhere! Don't worry too much with the supermarket performance, I think you dealt with it very well .. Hope you feel a little better now

As far as my child protection training informs me, you should definitely ask the school who is their child protection officer and speak to them in confidence. Sexual behaviour/ gestures can be an indication of abuse and it's better that you raise it first about the boy than someone else raises it about your dd. It doesn't mean the boy is being abused but if the school has noticed other problems it could be part of a bigger picture and useful for them to know

Really???

But the gesture doesnt really resemble an actual blowjob

I would just think the kid had an older brother, who had showed him the gesture...he likely doesnt know what it means himself?

better to be safe than sorry though

also busy why is an issue for the boy, and not OPs dd?

And don't worry about adding to the boy's list of woes, it clearly isn't his fault that he's been taught this gesture any more than it's your dd's... Very likely a teenage sibling thought it was funny to watch him do it. But just in case it was an adult or exposure to pornography, I'd report it. Schools should and do take these things seriously.

X posted I think bejeezus. I've done a few child protection courses and I was very shocked at some things that have gone on in the borough In which I work... Children watching porn with their parents, different types of abuse. I think I was a bit naive about these things, couldn't really believe people would behave like that. So it's only right that inappropriate behaviour is looked into, just in case... Child protection officers are trained not to ask leading questions etc but just to try & keep vulnerable children safe

Bejeezus I meant an issue as far as making sure there is no underlying problems like abuse or exposure to anything in the home or elsewhere that's inappropriate. Its always best to be safe than sorry and just by reporting it delicately to the school makes a pathway to maybe some investigation. It might be simply that's he is copying an older brother. Definetly an issue for Netherlands DD but after the conversation she's had with DD that should hopefully something not to come up again.