are your boys less affectionate than your girls?

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Hi didn't quite know how to put the heading but I suppose this is a question for parents who have boys and girls or A boy and a girl.I have a 11 year old boy and an 8 year old girl.I'm a bit worried and would like some reassurance.My little girl is very affectionate and has to have kisses and cuddles from me every day.I wish my little boy was the same but when I go to kiss him and cuddle him he never kisses me or cuddles me back.He doesn't mind me doing it though ,he never pushes me away it's just that he doesn't respond at all.I feel a bit sad about it as when he was a toddler and up until the age of 3 or 4 he was very affectionate like my daughter.So is it just boy behaviour?I try not to say anything or do anything different I treat them both the same and when I have kissed one I will soon after kiss the other.I am a bit worried.

I wouldn't be worried. I have 3 boys and one girl and my boys have all been more affectionate than my dd but it only lasts for so long. Sometimes my 9 yo ds1 initiates a cuddle, but kisses? Never!

Hi I just had to see if someone had replied yet,thanks for that.My dh says he and his brothers were never affectionate with his parents and they still aren't although they are very close.He says it's just boys for you.I am the only one who kisses his parents in their family whenever I arrive or leave.He never does.

Well, I don't think either dh or I came from very physically demonstrative families and we are not very physical with our own children, but even within those limits, I would say it is normal for boys to become less inot kisses and cuddles by the time they are about 6-7.

I must go to bed now,thanks for your messages.I'd hate him to think he's treated any different by me or that I favour his sister because I don't.I'll come back to this tomorrow.I don't know why it's started to worry me now.Maybe because he is getting older and will be even less likely to want to be affectionate then.I don't want to have a strained relationship with him when he's grown like my mother has with my brother.She says he was not affectionate towards her when he was small but we girls were.

i have 2 sons, my 10 year old is always kissing and cuddling me and sometimes it even gets a bit much whereas my 6 year old tends to say yuk get off!
actually, is my 10 year old unusual then? seems most 10 years olds have stopped being quite so openly affectionate?

My kids are 9 and 11.The 9 year old is a girl very cuddly the 11 year old is a boy he is less affectionate than say this time a year ago probably something to do with school and whats cool and wwhats not.But the last thing he says every night is love you mum so i know he does in his own way.I wouldnt worry to be honest.