Everyone else's kids always seem to have clean neat clothes, tidy hair and scrubbed faces, even when we've all spent the day together, their kids have eaten the same as mine, used or not used bibs the same as me, and played in the same places and even at the end of the day they look perfect. And I haven't seen their mums hovering over them with wipes all day either. Mine have hair all over the place, food all down them etc etc. OK, Im not that fussed about cleanliness, and I like them to eat all kinds of food and not to get stressed about messy play, but am i a hopeless case or are there ways I can redeem myself as a Mum?