brothers fighting all day, reached the end of my tether

[lu9months]

i've posted about this before, but i am getting so fed up. they are 10 and 7. i tried taking them out of the house today to the pool to let off steam because they were continually fighting - older one being nasty to younger, who cries and wails. they had 4 warnings at the pool to play nicely, and after the 4th time the younger one came crying that his brother was being nasty, i gave in and marched them home and sent them to their rooms, where they have been for the last half hour. i cant bear to let them out and watch it all start up again.

I've found spending time al

Sorry, pressed done by mistake
I've found spending time alone regularly with my oldest helps, also listening to both sides about what the fighting is about, not pronouncing who is right or wrong but just hearing from both of them. They seem to be able to return to play then without fighting.

Oh dear, this is how I see my life in a few years time....

I have two boys (nearly 2yo and a 5yo) and the eldest can be nasty to the youngest - I feel a nervous wreck, tbh. Today for example I was shouting at the eldest one for making the youngest cry. My voice is sounding hoarse...

I feel your pain!! Sorry I've no constructive advice :(

DCs 13 and 10 ( boy and girl) - can argue over fresh air - please accept my sypamthies.

agree with poppy. just listening to them both can work wonders. you don't have to say anything constructive.

it is bloody boring dealing with it though.

Are they competitive with each other.Eventulally figured that was the problem with mine.
Also am confused about the younger one.Is he a victim,or does he give as good as he gets.

10 and 7 here too. boy and girl though, but they fight and argue constantly.
Younger annoys elder / elder nit-picks and taunts younger. CON-STANT-LY.
I sit them down and listen to both sides, but
tbh it makes not a lot of difference. sorry. They just start up again after about 5 mins.
I send them to their rooms for a break also.

Sorry - I don't know what the answer is, but agree it is mind-numbingly horrid.
Waiting for super nanny to come on here and give us all the answer...........

thanks all, good to know i am not alone. at the moment they are downstairs fighting, the younger one is in tears (as usual). he is usually the victim, but does a very good line in bursting into tears and telling tales (which i ignore). i am studiously ignoring them, but sooner or later will have to intervene when the wailing gets too much. at that point i will send them to their rooms for settle down time. then when they come out they will start up all over again. i am so fed up with it. at least its back to school tomorrow!