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Pretty sure my dh in on the spectrum

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rainbowinthesky · 02/06/2012 08:47

He has always known he is different and has some put it down to some sort of learning difficulty. At school (boarding in another country) he always scored around 100% or just below on exams and people though he was very bright - however he had to go away and work long, long hours in order to understand concepts which other people picked up in the lesson.
He has absolutely no ambition at work yet does very well at what he does and could easily get promotion and be a high earner but has no desire to.
Unlike the rest of his family culturally who all live by the idea of women doing housework etc, he does the cooking, far more housework than me and is far more maternal than me.
He doesnt get jokes and never has. Even "knock, knock" jokes have to explained to him. He has to be told it's a joke and then have the whole thing explained to him why it's a joke and what makes it a joke. By this point he just doesnt get why anyone would think it were funny - that said he does laugh at only fools and horses but no other comedy.

He has never told or retold a joke in his life and doesn't find anything funny. He just doesnt get what humour is.

At work, those who work closely with him, get him now and know he has to go away after a meeting to digest what was said and know he will come back and solve the issues.

He never had a girlfriend before he met me when he was 23 and had only gone out on dates with girls who had boyfriends already.

He always points out the obvious as if he thinks noone else has seen it. The children are used to it and just groan when this happens.

I could go on and on but what do you think so far?

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rainbowinthesky · 02/06/2012 08:49

Should also add he has no imagination and the whole concept of "role play" is completely alien to him.

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FallenCaryatid · 02/06/2012 08:50

I think that if he wants a diagnosis he should go through his GP.

FallenCaryatid · 02/06/2012 08:56

Or you could contact these people for more guidance
www.autism.org.uk/

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rainbowinthesky · 02/06/2012 08:59

Thanks. He doesn't want to be diagnosed, I don't think. A diagnosis would make no difference. I was the first person is his life to point out to him that he was different and it was a relief to him to have someone else acknowledge it as he'd kept it to himself up until then. Our children know because they know him and it is obvious he thinks differently.

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