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DS starting school

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ScoobyDoo2012 · 01/06/2012 20:50

I am so sad about my DS starting school. He's only turning 4 in late June and still seems so young! I guess it's just really hit home that in no time at all, he'll be a grown man and gone. Every day when we have our long hugs on the sofa Im starting to think soon enough, he won't want this. My little boy will be gone.

Of course I'm happy to think of him growing into a confident and happy adult and I want that, I know my feelings are selfish and I'd never get in the way of his independence. But secretly, I feel overwhelmingly sad, like every day is a day closer to losing my son. I know I need to change my outlook, and think of all the fun yet to come, I know this is irrational, but somehow i'm stuck in this cycle of viewing each milestone as the beginning on the end.

Ds is my only child and I just feel like where have the past 4 years gone? I love that he calls me his best friend, the way he runs to me when I collect him from nursery with the biggest smile on his face, because I'm a single parent I feel like it's me and ds against the world. One day he'll move away and I'll probably be lucky to get a phone call a week from him! How do I change my outlook when it's not enough to keep telling myself this is positive and natural and I'll always be his mother?

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RockChick1984 · 02/06/2012 06:46

I'm not at the school stage yet, but I feel the same at times (DS learning to walk an realising he's not a baby any more, was the big one lately!). The best advice I was given was that it's completely normal to feel like this! You can be so proud of them but also need to grieve for the stage you have completed in their lives. Just allow yourself to do this, then move onto the happy feelings for them. It really works!

bruffin · 02/06/2012 07:22

Ds is 16, 6ft, doing gcses , has a girlfriend and a job and he is still my little boy.
One minute he can't wait for university, the next be is bounding up the stairs shouting
Mummy, Mummy look at my amazing drawing or giving me puppy dog eyes for a bar of chocolate.

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