Here's a big question for this time of night

[AngelaD]

What would you do if your DH wanted you to have an abortion ?
If you had children already with him but he said he couldn't cope with another ?

If i wanted the baby then I would have it regardless of what he said i think.

I could not do it. I have terminated a pregnancy because of abnormality and I know I could not go through that again unlesse the baby was seriously ill. Considering my past loss, if my DH asked me to do it, I would leave him.

I would have the baby anyway and say if he felt that way he should have got the snip. I am generally pro-choice, but could never abort DH's and my child unless serious abnormality.

NO. The choice is not his to make. He can have a say and an opinion, but very often men think that we can just sail through an abortion and the reality is not like that, some women live with the aftermath for a very long time. If they didn't want anymore they should do something about it then!

i think a DH's role is to support his DW in HER decision - not try and make it for her.

i don't think I would do it.
I seriously discussed it with dp before and couldn't come up with what I felt was a good enough reason for a termination.
a lot of things weren't right... but none of them were "wrong" enough for me to get rid of the baby.

What has he said will happen if you go ahead with the pregnancy?

I couldn't and wouldn't But that's just me. Thought I could terminate for abnormality, but when i saw the baby on the scan that was that. Have supported friends and family through abortions and it is not a choice that anyone makes lightly.

HE wouldn't but if he did, i wouldn't listen! no way in the world.

IMO a termination is for a woman to decide by herself, without influence from anyone else.

If he even suggested it, I'd think something had gone very awry with our relationship. I wouldn't have an abortion these days except for a serious abnormality.