DD1 is nearly 6. We live in a semi and the dividing fence of our garden to next doors garden is just a 3ft chicken wire fence.
Next door have a son of 5 yrs. My DC's and next doors DC's often talk through the fence which is fine obviously.
We get on ok with the parents. Although they've had to apologise to us a few times because this boy can be extremely rude to us and DCs.
His Dad has also apologised once when this boy really beat his little brother up in front of my DC and made them cry. Luckily the Dad stopped it quite quickly so it didnt go on very long but he was very vicious.
Anyway, yesterday DD1 was in the garden in her swimsuit as it was hot and we had the paddling pool out. DD1 started to talk to the boy next door. I was sat by the door and could hear everything. DD told him she needed a wee and came to walk in side. He asked her to ''just do it out here'' so I put my head round the door and told DD to go to the toilet, she did. Then when she went back to talking to lad next door he asked her ''will you show me your hole, the one you wee from?'' DD said no and he said ''I wont be your friend then'' I then went outside and said to DD that they should think of something else to talk about.
They both looked a bit sheepish but started talking about the paddling pool and the like so I just stayed within ear shot. To be honest I didn't really know what to say.
Later DD told me thats not the first time he has asked her the same thing and he has also asked to see her ''boobies'' before. I've told her that its not appropriate and now she is worried that this boy wont be her friend and might hurt her. I have told her that she doesn't need to worry about that and they'll still be friends etc.
I dont know whether to ask his parents to talk to him about boundries with other children and if he is curious about females that maybe they could talk to him about that too but I feel like I also might be interferring in their parenting. I dont know I just feel uncomfortable about it. What do you think?