6 and starting to wee :/ advice please

[charllie]

The other day my DD (who is 6yrs old) wet herself when we were on our way home from shopping. She was sat in the back of the car, never said she needed a wee, she only told me when we parked up at home. I spoke to her, asked her why she hadn't said anything and explained that if she had of said that she needed to wee, i'd have pulled over. She was sad, she didn't know why she done it. Then two days ago, she sat on the sofa, in our living room! And wee'd herself again. I took her to the bathroom, she done more wee on the toilet and then i spoke to her again. At first, she said that she hadn't wanted to leave her yoghurt (i didn't believe that) then she admitted that it was because she hadn't wanted to leave my laptop (she'd been playing a game before dinner and was going to go back to it after dinner)
Any help? Advice? I'm stuck with what to do :/ i don't know what to do if she does it again, i work with children, but only up to the age of 5, so this has never come up lol

I'm so sorry this is happening. My DS8 used to do this, and sometimes still does, but his weeing is a way of showing us that he's really distressed about something. I'm not saying that she is definitely distressed, but it might just be worth checking in an empathetic way that everything is OK at school, for example.

There is a great site - eric.org.uk that can provide advice, too.

Do you know, that hadn't crossed my mind at all :/ feel bad for not thinking of that before. Will speak to her teacher on Monday (her teacher has been off poorly the last two days, so don't think she'll be back tomorrow) Will maybe talk to her too, in the morning, not directly about anything in particular, just see if anything is worrying her etc. thank you :) will check that site out too. crosses fingers that it wont happen again

also possible she has a urine infection?

i think, when children really need to go but are trying not to, you can usually tell can't you?
i'd have thought if she needed it but just didn't want to leave the laptop you'd have noticed her wriggling around a bit?

seems odd that she just does it without showing any outward sign of needing the toilet,. although I appreciate that I am maybe generalising a bit here.

i think if it keeps happening i'd be tempted to see the GP just to rule out any physical cause

I would get a UTI ruled out for starters as thisisyesterday has suggested. The other causes could be anxiety, or the onset of a virus.

There hasn't been any wriggling around at all before it happens :/ so no sign of it happening. On the sofa, with the laptop, she was right next to me and in the car, she's in my eye sight in the mirror, again, nothing. The first time was possibly just over a week ago and then this more recent one on Tuesday. Think thats why i hadn't taken her to the docs up to now, as they were so far apart. May see about taking her if it happens again though. I did speak to her about it, felt bad because she got upset, i never shouted, just spoke to her and explained that she is a big girl and she knows where to go to the toilet and the reasons she's given aren't reasons for not going to the toilet. Don't know if that was the right thing to do or not now?? :/ also making sure she goes for a wee before we leave school, the shops etc to try and stop it happening that way too.

my ds made these type of excuses to explain wetting accidents but was eventually diagnosed with impaction and this causes reduced bladder control so that at times there would be no warning at all. Amount of warning varied depending on how much was pressing on the bladder. However we had no idea that he was constipated and he was not passing hard stools.

Thankfully, there has been no more accidents since i posted this. Have been making sure she goes for a wee before we leave places that have toilets. :)