help with sleepover with 6 year old in nappies

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as above, dd is having a party and wants to have a couple of close friends to sleep over, one of the mums told me this afternoon (sleepover next saturday) that her dd has a poop problem as in she will only poop in her sleep in a nappy!!!......there is no way on this earth that i am prepared to clean up a 6 year old dd covered in poo that is not my own, i can not have this child sleep over but not sure how to delicately put this to the mum, if it was my daughter with the problem i would not accept a sleepover invite unless she was clean..help please

Kids come in all shapes & sizes with all abilities, warts & all.
FFS its a bit of kids poo. Include the poor child, you really dont know what the cause of this childs poo problems are, be it psychological or physical surely what she needs is friends & support.
Perhaps having a sleepover with other 6 yr olds is just what she needs.

btw you do no they wont sleep anyway dont you so if she does it in her sleep you'll probably be fine.

Day event, it's the obvious thing.
You save that six year old being embarrased- she would certainly know you felt unhappy about helping her, not nice for her. Plenty of years ahead for sleepovers, six is very young, and your daughter will get over the disappointment you can have an amazing day party!

She'd be mortified to poo in her sleep if she's sharing a room with her friends though

I would just get on with it tbh. If the DD is happy to come (and presumably she knows she poos in her sleep?) then you just deal with it, surely?

Longdistance - you are sure she gets a hard time from her parents? I'm not, your nephews treatment is not normal!

One of my DC wet the bed at night for a long time, (very heavy sleeper) and I never, ever mentioned it to him, apart from asking him to leave the duvet pulled back, so I didn't forget to change it (and in the hope of saving the duvet from needing a wash). Very for your DN.

I bet a 6 year old can clean herself up with a few baby wipes/kandoos and a nappy bag.

Hmm, i dont think i would do actual changing at that age. When mine pooed in nappies in their sleep, they would then roll around in their sleep and need a thorogh clean up. I would consider letting her use a shower and clean that afterwards instead, but I dont think a couple of baby wipes would work?

I would happily help a child deal with a wet nappy without letting any of the other children realise but do think a dirty nappy is a bit different.