Do people get away with reporting you to social services

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My daughter and I went through a rough time just after Christmas, I had a lot of work on and couldn't spend as much time as I wanted with her. One day I noticed loads of scratches on her leg and asked what they were. She said she had done it with a toy because I wasn't playing with her. I told the school the next day and they arranged a child counsellor to come in and speak to her once a week. I also cut down on my workload and spent more time with her.

A few weeks ago I had a falling out with a woman I had met through one of my daughter's clubs. After I cut all ties with her she emailed me constantly for about 2 weeks, saying awful things. In one of the emails this woman sent me she mentioned the leg scratching incident and said that my daughter had serious problems and I should do something about it.

Today I received a letter from ss telling me that someone has raised a concern about me and I just know it was her. She's not done it because she had any concerns for my dd's well-being, if that were the case she would of called them 5 months ago. The school have said that she's a good, well balanced girl and the counsellor is someone that i know through church and she said that my dd was doing fine.

Do ss take into account that someone that raised the concern is someone with a personal vendetta against you. Do I take in all the vindictive emails she sent to show them how unbalance this woman is and how much she hates me. I really don't know what to do.

Don't panic. SS are used to dealing with calls made maliciously. We had it done to us. SS rang and spoke to us, and that was the end of it. They were satisfied that it was a personal vendetta.

thank you.

According to my health visitor SS get dozens of such calls a week - they have to investigate so send you a letter or phonecall then sometimes follow up with asking school/HV/doctor as this will all be fine you've nothing to worry about. If they did consider her at risk they'd have turned up to do a 'welfare check' not sent a letter.

SS must have taken the malicious allegation made about me seriously then! Turned up one morning asking to come in and speak to me, I was terrified but let them in, all the allegations were horrible and untrue (apparently I was not feeding dd etc. All lies!)

I had my suspicions that it was my mother, but 8 months later and I still don't truly know who it was as the allegations were made anonymously.

The problem in punishing malicious reporters would be the cost in assessing whether a report has been made out of malice or not. Given the volume of potentially malicious calls that are made to SS every day, it would cost the service hugely. It would mean assessing cases such as yours, that do not warrant assessment.

It would also deter genuine people from raising concerns, which simply cannot happen. It is daunting enough making that call.

I hope things are on the up for you and your DD :)

I would not worry either they probably will not even follow this up as others said they get lots of calls like this and tend to know from talking with the caller if it is a vendeta or genuine. if they dofollow this up they will be told how dd is getting on, If the school where concerned about this they would have altered social servicers them selfs so that says alot that they did not. Just see what happens and respond honestly as you have nothing to hid or be concerned about.

There is a woman round here who does it regularly.
I don't know how she gets away eith it.
She writes detailed complaints using cp jargon.
She does it to people wha have crossed her and the cases are always closed after initial visit.
She was a cm.
In her case I would expect Ss to be able to hold her to account.
But none of her victims has ever told SS about her!
If it was me I wold be shouting loud and long.
She picks her victims wisely though
Nasty cow

I called them yesterday and told them that there was an issue at the beginning of the year but I got help from the school straight away. I also said that if there were any further issues then the school would of got in touch with them then.The social worker I was on the phone to had already contacted the school. She agreed and said that she will call me back.

I then told them I knew who had reported me, mentioned her name and said that we were at odds with one another and she had done this maliciously. I also said that she was know to them through her child being referred and that it was an ongoing case. I also said that I had contacted the police regarding harassment from this woman. The social worker then said she wasn't going any further with this case and wouldn't be calling me back. I then contacted the police and asked it they would have another talk to her, just so it's on record.

Well done.
Really brave and together of you to do all that.
It's so easy to freeze in terror in situations like this.

I know someone who was on the recieving end of malicious callls. She was reported to SS for sexual abuse (ie. breastfeeding an 8 month old)

I think there should be an offense for wasting social services time in a similar way that people can be punished for wasting police time. I don't know how you can do it. There may be honest well meaning people who make a mistake and frankly its better to err on the side of caution.

I also think that some people make false reports because they have pychiatric problems. Making the fake reports is a way of getting attention. Its almost like Muchesen syndrome by proxy.

This is so sad not only to write this but to read all the posts! But I’ve been reported to the social services so many times it’s awful! And without sounding awful I can only think it’s my partners family doing it, long story short I got told I’d never have children and that was my only dream in life! I did my own research found some medication I could take without going down the IVF route and boom my little miracle appeared! She’s nearly three so clever and literally my best friend but some spiteful horrible person is doing nothing but cause grief for me! To the point the social worker said she doesn’t know how many more times she can visit me because she’s nothing negative to say about me and my daughters bond, my daughters health or anything! But it’s just hard and breaks my heart to think some one somewhere is trying to take away the best thing that’s ever happened to me xxx

Yes they absolutely do my neighbours did it to me 8 times and I had a case opened and then things got twisted