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How would you have dealt with this?

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Ozziegirly · 18/05/2012 05:46

DS (20 months) and I were in the shopping centre today. We were in a queue and he was being v good,waiting patiently, and then pointed outside and said "car?" (they have a ride on car) and I said "you have been waiting so nicely that you can have a go in the car when we get outside".

Anyway, we finish up, get outside and another similar age child is on the car.

DS looks a bit tearful but ok, so I say "ok, would you like to wait for a turn or go and find another car (as I knew there was one around the corner)". He basically stands right by the car, trying to get in and beginning to whimper.

The other boy's dad says "I think it's our time to go now" - other boy begins to scream. Dad says "ok, just a few minutes more" Me; "see, only a little bit and you can get in" - begin full scale wailing by DS.

I say "I know you want to get in the car but you will have to wait. If you carry on screaming we will have to go".

Screaming continues.

We leave.

We find other car. DS has a go all smiles.

So, I get that he was pissed off that he had to wait but how would you have dealt with this better?

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BigusBumus · 18/05/2012 05:48

I think you dealt with it perfectly.

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Ozziegirly · 18/05/2012 05:51

Really??

I felt like I had both accidently promised something I then couldn't deliver (the car) and then given in to the screams by finding another car!

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Ozziegirly · 18/05/2012 05:51

Sorry, that sounded like a rude "really??" - I more meant it as a "thought I had fucked up" really....

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dobalina · 18/05/2012 06:06

It's not giving in if its something you promised. And it wasn't anyone's fault the first car was busy. Sounds fine to me.

Hyperballad · 18/05/2012 06:11

Ozzie! Your thinking way too much IMO! Why are you thinking of this at this time of the morning..... Go get yourself a nice

Sparklingbrook · 18/05/2012 07:00

I think that they should tell you at ante natal to never ever start the coin operated ride thing.

We had this all the time. Don't worry, it was a bit of a lesson in waiting, and he got a ride in the end.

FamiliesShareGerms · 18/05/2012 07:24

Sounds spot on to me. What else do you think you could / should have done?

exoticfruits · 18/05/2012 07:34

You are over thinking it! He wanted a ride on the car and he got one. He was happy.

Octaviapink · 18/05/2012 08:32

I'd have been more annoyed at the other dad giving in to his kid when yours was obviously waiting patiently. In fact I'm really annoyed on your behalf.

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Ozziegirly · 18/05/2012 10:11

Thanks everyone - I just got a few "looks" as I carried a screaming\sobbing DS away and at the time was just thinking "I have no idea how I could have done this any differently!" So it's actually really nice to know that it wasn't a total disaster....

And I don't pay for the rides but they are EVERYWHERE over here and I do let DS go in as a reward for his normally pretty good behaviour.I don't think he knows they acyually move though

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peanutbutter38 · 18/05/2012 10:31

I hate those bloody coin operated rides. I might start a campaign to ban them.

bronze · 18/05/2012 10:33

Octavia presumably the other dad had paid for his child's turn

GnocchiNineDoors · 18/05/2012 10:33

I love the fact he's happy enough to be in them without them moving

Fwiw, I think you did the right thing. The car was in use. He had two options, which you offered him: wait your turn for this one or find the other one. Don't worry about it.

sleepingflower · 18/05/2012 10:40

my DS was atleast 4 before he realised those rides moved if you put money in them! Mean mummy!

GnocchiNineDoors · 18/05/2012 10:42

Clever Mummy!

Hullygully · 18/05/2012 10:46

You should have wrenched the first child from the car and hurled him across the car park. teach your boy to be a Winner!

carocaro · 18/05/2012 10:53

Yes perfect, he's 20 months old, hard to understand and reason at that age. And never ever worry about what anyone else may or may not be thinking, get on with you!

Octaviapink · 18/05/2012 11:09

bronze - yes, but from what the OP said he decided to give his DC another turn when he complained about having to stop. I think that's pretty selfish when there's another child standing waiting.

ThatllDoPig · 18/05/2012 11:16

Don't worry so much about what other people would do, or what they are thinking?
what is that saying . . don't sweat the small stuff!

you are the mummy!

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Ozziegirly · 18/05/2012 11:36

[Grin] at HullyGully - that would have been the aussie way.....

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Ozziegirly · 18/05/2012 11:38

And Octavia - the other boy hadn't paid either but to be fair he might have only just got on when we arrived - who knows?

Maybe on dadsnet there is a "a woman tried to guilt trip me into getting my boy out of a car when we had only just arrived" thread.

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Octaviapink · 18/05/2012 12:08

Blimey, if the other kid hadn't paid I'd have chucked him off .

Gabeesh · 21/05/2012 01:01

Think you handled it perfectly - we all need to learn patience (except me cos I want everything NOW!) :)

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