Pushy bossy sister in law!

[blondy33]

I have a problem with my partners sister, she is being too forward and pushy about our first child which is soon due. It started with the pram she offered to buy and then promptly chose it with the help of a shop assistant! Then she assumes our child will be in her car so wants to have the car seat fitted into it. And on numerous occasions has said shell be whisking our child off for walks taking it off my hands for a while hinting at our child staying over night talking about how shell feed it and change nappies etc.shes planning to take time off her work to no doubt come down every day. Shes in for a big disappointment as I have 2 of my own children that need and want to bond with our new child as does my partner. I've asked him to speak to her but so far he's said nothing, I'm not the most assertive person so haven't said anything myself but I'm desperate to find my voice and say something once and for all! Does any1 have any advice?

Your DP needs to speak to her. Saying nothing means (in her eyes) you're agreeing with her!

Can you treat it light-heartedly, for instance next time she says something ott, just laugh at her and say "goodness, I've never known anyone be so excited about becoming an auntie - do you want to do the labour too? At least I know where to come when I need a hand"

If she doesn't take the hint, you'll have to be honest with her. In a nice, grateful way that makes the boundaries clear

Its nice that she's excited but obviously going a bit overboard! Maybe you and your partner can draw up some sort of rota? As in for all the families visits?

Just say your trying to get it organised so your not bombarded with too many visitors (so not to single her out) and with 3 children you'll need your rest.

"SIL here's when it would be convenient for you to visit, I'm sure you understand with 3 kids we've got to be organised about visits, you know, with everybody wanting to see the new baby and all, thanks, see you then"

Failing that, lock the door and close the curtains. If she continues to nap, send DP out to tell her "everyones sleeping, can you come for an hour midday tomorrow?"

Or, and this is my favourite "GET ORRRRF ME BABY AND GO AWAY"

*to knock, not to nap

I've been thinking of how I can say it in a nice way without offending her! Wenever she has said things I jst pretend I didn't hear and talk about my partner needing trained in nappy changing! She is a very bossy person I feel it needs to be straight to the point with her, I think I expect her to know already that we will want family time it seems obvious but she can't help herself, she must be centre of attention taking control and taking special time away from my partner and kids. I like the idea of locking the door and putting the fone on silent! I can see me doing that to get some peace! Thanks every1 :)