Terrible 1's ??!!

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My ds was 1 last week an is turning from an ultra happy baby into a tantrum throwing 1 year old !! Some one assure me this won't last forever ! He was always laughing and smiling and everyone used to comment on it but no if you tell him no or that there is no more food he cries and throws himself on the floor. Although its usually forgotten within a couple of minutes I still find it heat breaking ( first time mum, can you tell ?) I really hope this is just a phase ?

I hope it will pass. DS is the same age and I can feel your pain.

"No more biscuits DS"

"WWWWAAAAAHHHHH" (while thinking "No baby has a worse life than me!")

"No DS, don't chew that wire"

"WWWWAAAAAHHHHH" (while thinking "No baby has a worse life than me!")

"DS, you have to give that spoon back"

And so it continues

Lol ! Thank you Annpan I'm pleased I am not the only one ! You have just put a big in my face

Ha ha yes I feel your pain too, dd turned 1 a couple of weeks ago and especially if she can't reach something she throws a major strop.

I really hope it's a phase.

My 13 month old's first major meltdown in the supermarket because I had to take something off her to scan through the checkout (gave warning in advance, never been a problem before...) left me shell-shocked. First time parent here too, and wasn't expecting this until a lot later! I've had to do some thinking fast about how to deal with the tantrums and am feeling a bit calmer about it now and better at avoiding them. The things that set my dd off (sometimes, depending what mood she's in) are being strapped into the car seat or pushchair, having something taken off her, or me going anywhere out of her sight. I so hope this phase passes soon too. Sigh.

You think that's a tantrum?

AHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

I'll send over my 3yo.....

A phase that lasts until they're 3, yes. DS2 is doing some blinders, at the moment. I am so used to hearing screaming now I don't really even hear it anymore. [jaded]

If its any consolation it seems the ones who start the tantrums early are the bright & feisty ones, at least thats how it was with my own DD & other DCs we know - it won't get better - it will just keep changing as they grow :) but you will get used to it & work out coping tricks to nip it in the bud PDQ & it will always be interesting & great fun - mines now 9 & still drives me nuts at times, but I wouldn't change her for the world :)

I did the fake tantrum in the middle of the supermarket with DD one time - that worked - I only had to threaten from there on & she'd fall into line - but then I've no shame

Yeah my DS (also recently 1) does this too. I tend to just narrate his feelings a bit so he feels understood. "You really wanted to touch the laptop! Mummy said no now you're SAD!" And then move on to something else to distract him.

My 18 month old started at about 16 months. Lying on the floor, screaming, huge tears over .....nothing. Most recently it was not being allowed to eat the fish food and the cats refusal to wear socks

I was the smug mum with DD who just seemed to miss it all together. Then the smugger mum when DS seemed to also miss it - THEN HE TURNED 3!!!!!!
Why does nobody mention the Terrible Threes........................???????

Sorry to burst the bubble but you are in for the long haul now......... and I have been told by friends with teenagers that toddler tantrums are nothing compared to those of a teenager......................

(looks down at bulging tummy of expecting DC3 and wonders what the hell have I got myself in for?)

Umm yes it does seem to last a while (DS has just turned 3 and they just seem to get louder!) but if it's any consolation, they go through months where the tantrums are less/they don't seem to get cross at all.

1yr old DD had her first 'my banana is broken and the world has ended' tantrum this morning. It made me at lot!

Thanks everyone, if nothing you have made me laugh

Weeeell, can't say it's going to stop for good any time soon, but it does come in waves - my D (now 2) will have a grumpy week followed by a lovely happy one. And there are compensations. It's really lovely when they get more mobile and start communicating much more clearly. Despite tearing my hair out sometimes, I have really enjoyed D as an older baby and toddler.

Keep trying to remember that it's all in aid of learning independence and the ability to make their own decisions - it means being a bit of an emotional punchbag for them now, but you'll be glad of it when they're leaving home. Or something. That's what I tell myself, anyway.