To GO or not to go

[AbbyM]

Im 19 and have a 9 month old awesome little girl. She is everything to me. Last year I deferred my entry to the university in kent that I got accept to after finishing grammar school. This fall I am suppose to go over to England to start. There's so much I'm trying to get organized - money, house, child care, etc..and running out of time..but determined!!! When some people put in their opinions I some times feel like throwing in the towel and just waiting until baby is older. But I really want to go...anyone in a similar situation?/ have any suggestions?

I started my training 13 years ago to be a midwife, my attitude was where there was a will there was a way. My youngest child was two years old at the time. Good childcare is worth the weight in gold, knowing that my son was happy at nursery meant that I could focus on my studies and not have to worry about him during the day. Have a back up plan if your child has to be picked from childminders / nursery when they are sick, this is where family and friends can help out.

Thanks..I wish there was another me! Yeah I'm looking into all the nurseries ..looking to make connections cause my family all lives in the USA and northern Ireland..so Itll b just me and her there

I wish you all the best. When you have a young child, and stay in during the evenings, I saw myself getting a degree for that. It was tough, juggling everything, but it has been worth it. It is also important to be self discipline as you cannot leave stuff to the last minute, so you have to be organised.

Yea thank you very much. I've always loved school and wanted to carry my education definitely to a university degree. I've always been very organized, although ik it'll be a a whole new challenge. I'm not a party girl or anything so staying in isn't a problem for me. I just hope this is the right decision for me and her.

I think it is possible - loads of people study with kids - but I would worry that you would become ill or the child would be ill and you would have no back up. That would be a general concern for you, not particularly related to you being a student, but that you would be in a country as a single parent away from any family support. Why do you want to come to Kent. What about the USA or Northern Ireland?

Just to add that I have been a single parent for 4 years and it can be damn tough at times.

Yea I have been thinking about that...like what If things do go wrong ..apart from my stuidies. Nurseries are full of germs and I'm a clean freak so idk how that's going down. I'm originally from the USA actually, the east coast. I applied back there are got accepted to two unis but turned them down when I found out I was pregnant December 2010. And just ended up deferring at kent. I have just had my heart set on it. Unfortunetly they dont offer a good film production course in NIRELAnd but if worst comes to worst I will probably just reapply to queens. I worked my butt off through highschool especially the last year doing 4 alevels while pregnant and I just really want this ..I feel like I'm being pig headed though. ..yeah so i guess it is do-able, harder, but doable