"worried" about pooing in toilet

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ohhh flip wish i had some advice to give you. DD2 was dry but was still dirty upto 12 months later. She would just poo in her knickers.

Hopefully someone will come along in a mo and offer you some sensible advice

Have you tried making her relax, say by reading to her? That's how we finally got ds1 to poo on the loo (had been going in pants for a couple of months).

this is so common, we could practically have a topic for 'children who are being potty trained and don't like pooing in the loo/potty!'

What worked for us was trying to take the anxiety out of the situation - we had a lot of laughs about how funny poos are, how lovely the toilet is etc. - I know it sounds like a bundle of laughs but it was the only thing that worked! I should also say that it did take a while to crack and every time he had a 'sore' poo (if he ever got slightly constipated or had a big poo) then we had to go back to square one again.

Has she got a special seat for the loo? Also found that ds liked the soft seat (the sort of squishy ones) more than the hard plastic ones.

There are books you can get - one I think is called 'Everyone poos' or something like that. I will look it up.

Everybody poos

dd1 was like that when she potty trained at about 2.4 months. Very good with wes but very anxious about poos. Got upset and asked for a nappy or did in pants. When I asked her why she didn't use toilet said 'cos I don't like to'. Anyway, we tried the relaxed approach for a fair number of weeks and I was washing pooey pants in the toilet and then long washes in the machine - yuk but couldn't throw so many away. In the end I was knackered and had a new abay and so tried the tough approach and said 'if you poo your pants you will get no more CBebies for the rest of the day'. That happened a few times and she carried on pooing her pants seemingly prefering that to her favourite telepvision and then suddenly she jsut started pooing in the potty and the toilet and asking for the television. We made such a fuss of her when she got it right. Since it was Christmas she got advent chocolates too. It worked!

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perhaps she doesnt like the idea of a 'splashback' from the toilet-have you tried putting a layer of toilet paper on the surface of the water in the pan?