I love my dh this morning because....

[flapperghasted]

he's currently talking to my 11 year old, stroppy pre-teen in such a grown up way, talking about her behaviour and discussing how we prevent things getting out of control in future. He's a lovely man and I can't believe how lucky I got getting such a good dad. DD is crying and saying how it's all our fault and he's being so logical, practical and constructive.

Are dads usually better at this kind of thing? Or is this just in our house?

Im sure you are both wonderful parents x

flapper lol, dh has had many chats with our dc over the year...thx for bringing back some not so wonderful memories

over the years doh lol

Dh is better with dd1 in our house. He really 'gets' her whereas I just flare up. We need to avoid flares for the next 2 weeks though as he's in South Korea for work.

Well, I love my DH this morning because he brought me a coffee in bed.

Yours is doing something far more valuable (and loveable!) as he is showing a calm and practical approach to united parenting and application of standards. I hope DD benefits from this, and it provokes her to think about her behaviour. Like the poster above said, you'll both be doing a good job, and sometimes it is necessary for the parent who has been bearing the brunt of the difficult behaviour to step back a bit and have the other take over with the same messages.

These responses are so lovely. I've welled up reading this. Thank Gawd dd has just taken the dog out or she'd want to know what I was doing!! I bite back way too easily and dh has always been the calm voice of reason in the house.

I love it when DH brings me coffee in bed meditrina but he's recovering from the snip this morning, so I've had to take on the coffee making duties.

Northernlurker I think DH would come home to a corpse if he went away for two weeks...mine or dd's LOL.

That's not strictly true. We get on a lot of the time, we're just both always right in our familial setting. At school/work we're both good at negotiating and peacemaking. At home, we're like Cameron and Clegg. Ideologically we're opposed, but we've been shoved together and we've got to make the most of it.

In my home DH & DSD are 2 pea's in a pod so no they kind of fl;are up each other as WAYYYYYY too alike lol

Flapper - that is EXACTLY like dd1 and I too!