Anyone else out there frazzled?

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Is it just me - OR is life really bloody hard? I honestly find myself contstantly run down. Am working 3 days a week and commuting 150 miles each of those days (have to drive as train travel too expensive). Job is super demanding - but my husband doesn't earn enough to support us without me working (a commonplace thing these days).

DS is 5, DD is 3 (21 months between). I find I can never catch up on the housework. The house is also a project but we dont have budget to make it how we would like. I'm very lucky to have my kids, happy, healthy children but god it's hard work. I have no family nearby, thank god for my lovely friends. DH has my 3 year old one day a week, is good at taking her out, etc but seems to have no concept of multitasking and cleaning the house.

Also, does anyone else find everything trashed in their house. I feel like i'm always telling my kids off - because they chuck cushions around, jump on sofa - which is (supposed to be) a no-no in my house. Yadda yadda.

Anyway - just venting, just venting...

If its any consolation I'm frazzled too. I only live ten mins away from work at that and only have one DS who is 22 months and currently going through a I'm going to constantly scream stage and that is day and night. I'm ten weeks pregnant so my very last nerve is hormonally frayed at the moment. Even dp who has patience of a saint is getting to the end of his tether with him. I have no idea why he screams other than he's tired. He's not I'll, dosnt seem in pain etc. arggghhh why does he do this to me every few months. I know it will pass but when your in it it's hard. Hey ho like you op just venting :(

I too am always behind on my housework and never quite feel like I get things finished. We used to plan to do DIY on a particular day and now we just put it off as we are too busy/tired etc. it does feel a bit like groundhog day sometimes doesn't it you need a small break to look forward too like a meal with a friend one night or a day at a spa or shopping.... Get planning

Yup thats me. I work 2 night shifts 1 day shift and only have 1 DS (16 months) he is in to everything so cant take my eyes off him for a min in the day to get anything done. Dp gets home at 8.30 so will be making tea then. So by the time DS is in bed im frazzeled and just want to cabbage on the couch with or . Hence overflowing washing basket a pile of ironing and a few dishes form dinner calling me from the kitchen, and absolultey no get up and go x

Also totally frazzled here 5 dcs youngest is 2 work full time and seem to spend any time I have at home nagging my kids and cleaning/cooking/doing laundry and never feel on top of everything!!! You are definitely not alone.

Thanks fellow frazzlerista's! I'm sorry to hear you're also knackered but feel better to know I'm not the only one. Nevercan groundhog day or hamster on a wheel syndrome is spot on. I just never thought life could be this shattering.
My mum had five of us (albeit a big age gap of 14 years between me and the youngest) and the house was immaculate & she never seemed to make a big deal about it. However she didn't work, had family nearby and a well off husband. I take my hat off to you fiveisenough - you must have to be military with school runs etc.

I feel exactly the same, except I only have one child who is 18 months. Both DH and I work full time in demanding jobs. We never seem to have time to do anything other than house work. DS is very demanding - quite a "spirited" child shall we say! I honestly feel like I am only just ever coping to be honest. The weekends come and I plan to go out, meet friends, do something around the house that needs doing but I only ever have the 2 hour window during the day when DS is alseep on a Sat or Sunday and by the time I have my lunch, clear up after his lunch etc, that 2 hours is gone and he is awake again and into everything. I never ever get to relax apart from 30 minutes on the couch at night after dinner.

It is awful actually and quite depressing. I just keep wondering what is it all about? How long can I cope with this kind of pace. TBH, I think working outside the home makes it harder for me (particularly full time) because it means you can't catch up on stuff that needs doing at home because you are in the office Monday to Friday.

I need to quit my job!

I'm ex military so maybe that helps! Mostly it's ok. Does really get overwhelming sometimes. The never ending laundry battle is the worst!

I really feel for you all. I feel pretty frazzled most of the time and I'm a SAHM to one 15 month old!

My childless, but TTC friend visited the other day and kindly helped with the washing up. I know she wasn't really passing judgement on me, but she did say something like "oh well if you tackle it straight away, it won't build up". Aaargghhhh!

She also asked what my DP and I do at weekends and when I said - catch up on housework mainly, she said that if and when she has a baby she'll do all that during the week so they can go out and have fun at weekends .

I'm SO Glad you posted this and I read it today. It's good to know I'm not alone and today I really need that.

I've a similar story to the person who started the thread: I have 2 boys 1 5 and 1 who is 5 months old. I've just yesterday returned to work after mat leave. My DH is self employed and does not earn that much but loves his job, as do I, so I'm back full time. I live far a good 30mins drive from work but as I don't drive and work is in the city centre I take about 1 1/2 hours to get home after picking both kids up. I did this for the 1st time last night and at about 10 points along the road I could have sat down and cried. Why does it have to be so hard?

I've not even got to the stage of working out how I'm gonna get the housework done. I had thought on Friday night as quickly as I could so to have the weekend but I'm guessing that won't happen.
I'm just winging it through this week and hoping for the best.

I'm so glad that for alot of working mother's it's the same. I know in my heart it will get easier and I know with DS 1 who is 5 after a while I can see the benefits in our lifstyle and make the most of our days off but just now it's hard.

Also being honest it is for DH too. He's not used to looking after the baby alone and getting up at 6:30 to do the mornings so I can do evenings but he's totally risen to it.

Lets hope in 10 years time we look back on this chapter and say it was worth it and laugh.#