toddler wont go in buggy

[paisley256]

He walks everywhere which is great, however there are times like when im at the shops or like the school runs last week in the pouring rain when i want him to get in the buggy and he goes crazy.

He is 2.4 and he runs off at every opportunity, going anywhere is a nightmare as i spend all my time chasing after him. If we are out and he has been walking and i know he is tired i try and get him in the buggy hoping he will settle down to sleep but he just screams and screams and protests. Its getting to the point where i dread going anywhere as it always ends in tears and me feeling like im the worst mum ever.

Has this happened to anyone else and have you any suggetions please?

What Stranded said.

A back pack with reins attached work well here. He gets to put his toy and drink in his bag he seems rather proud of this for some reason!
He has a hedgehog one, they do dinosaur, bug ones etc.
I insist on hand holding and everytime he does hold my hand when asked I give over the top praise, seems to work for us.
Hth

I'm with Stranded. He's tired. He goes in the buggy....

I just fought with mine and made them go in. It doesn't take long for them to know you mean business, if you do actually mean it. Where as if you let them know that there is an alternative way to your way they will learn very quickly to push your
boundaries.
DS1 was and angel toddler and rarely had a tantrum.
DS2 not so easy and makes a huge racket in protest at going in the buggy. But he goes in it. I don't care what people think.

You are the boss.

Same here - I've got a huge and very fighty 18 month old. It always kicked off when I picked him up from nursery and I could see people looking at me and wondering why I couldn't control my child. It was really really embarrassing - tears were shed (mine and his). But what is the alternative? He could get in real danger or hurt himself. Now I give three opportunities then he goes in the buggy by fair means or foul. If I have to push him in by the tummy because he's flinging himself backwards like a boomerang, so be it. But I get both DS and buggy somewhere quiet so as to minimise the chance of an audience!

1. "Please will you get in the buggy darling?"
2. "I need you to get in the buggy, because...."
3. "If you don't get in the buggy now, Mummy will (threat) because...."
4. War.

Oh how good it is to know it's not just me!
I think alot of my problem is that i'm too thin skinned - i see everyone looking and i want the ground to swallow me up, i know i shouldn't care but it just seems that where ever we go he is the only one kicking off whilst other shoppers and their quiet contented kids look at me like can she not shut him up.

We have just got back from shops and he gave a fantastic performance as usual, he wont walk,he's running all over so i forced him in buggy and he screamed the whole time. my friend and her little girl looked on in pity, her girl is soooo well behaved and so contented to sit with her dummy in and look around i can tell her mum thinks it's something i must have not done properly to make him like this. Note to self......stop caring what people think!

Well I bet your friend wasn't thinking that for a start. I reckon she was thinking 'thank fuck it's not me this time' if she was thinking anything at all.

I find it useful to shove a snack in their hand once you've wrestled them into the push chair. Sometimes it shuts them up briefly.

Tbh I don't judge the mums who are clearly involved in a battle of wills, (I send them good luck vibes) I judge the ones who give up at the first protest from a toddler.

They need to know who is the boss when it comes to safety. Your word is law about that and it's not up for negotiation.

I don't mean that you have to be nasty, just be firm and keep on being firm and he'll soon get the message.

I don't believe in 'he won't do this, he won't do that'

He's the child, your the adult!

He's not in charge, you are.

he needs to do as he's told.
before you go out somewhere, before he has smelled freedom and got all giddy, tell him "we are going to the shops. you can walk while we do x, but after that you will go in the buggy". give him a five minute, 2 minute, and 1 minute warning. then shove him in despite the inevitable protests.

My toddler is 2 and the king of tantrums. He also hates going in the buggy and screams and screams but he is my 3rd and I am over what other people think. I bend him in when he goes stiff, tie the straps up tight and ignore the screams. He doesn't get an option.

Im always firm with him it just seems like he's getting worse not better despite my attempts to be consistant with him, i thought he would have got the message by now that im not going to give in but i suppose i will have to keep at it.

GEt somebody else to put him in ..... Might not always be easy to find somebody suitable, however it worked with mine and whilst in town recently with my dd now 3 I saw a toddler screaming , arching back , refusing to sit in buggy to be strapped in, pregnant mum . I offered politely to help- just gentle talking hello, how are you , its raining today, thats a nice teddy, oh there s a bus , the child was so surprised he let me sit him in and strap him in . Exactly what happened with mine until she cottoned on but it worked for a good while and after that was much better and I diddn't have to sit on her to get her in it.....
Its probably not H&S, politically safe etc etc etc but its an idea....

Hi just wanted to thank everyone for the replies yesterday - i didn't get a chance to come back on.

The backpack with reins seems like a fab idea i will def try this.

Just re-reading your replies has given me a confidence boost and we will get through this difficult stage!

By the way he is my 3rd child would you believe, but he is a completely different kettle of fish this one - the other two were alot more laid back!