please tell me it gets easier!

[nandrin]

I have a 6 week old and a 23 month old, my newborn will only sleep on/with me, he doesn't even like slings! I've tried everything! I wouldn't mind it if I didn't have a toddler to look after aswell, luckily he's really laid back and well behaved but I feel awful about not giving him the attention he's used to.
I don't drive and live in a tiny village with hardly any footpaths so there's not anywhere for me to go during the day other than a baby and toddler group once a week in village. I'm going insane! Feels like I'm being such a crap mother to my toddler.
Has anyone else experienced this?

If there is a baby and toddler group does that mean there are other parents with young children in the village? would it be possible to do some informal things with them - coffee mornings and the like. Bit cringeable to set up I know but it is a way to get the children occupied AND have adult company.

Otherwise, is there a bus service into the nearest town? Could your partner or other family visit and take you out?

If all else fails then the weather must warm up eventually and you can have picnics in the garden with both your children, the baby can rest and you and your older child can have some bonding time.

Probably not much help but you do sound v isolated in that situation. What will you do when your toddler starts school btw?

Thanks, just moved here so still getting know people. There is a nusery and school in the village but my husbands job is temporary so probably won't be here very long. Just feeling a bit lonely and trapped.

You have my sympathies - I lived somewhere which I knew would only be temporary when DD was first born. My family were also too far away for visits and I'm sure the isolation contributed to my PND (not saying you've got it/will get it btw).

Will the next move be permanent, and how long before you are likely to move? Good luck!