Pregnant with no3 and starting to wonder what on earth I´ve done - HELP!

[peterpie]

After much deliberation for almost a year we decided to "go for it"! My intial reaction when I found out was one of total happiness, that was a few weeks ago now.

So here I am coming up to 10 weeks and all I can think about are the negatives: how will it affect my two other children, are they going to feel side-lined, why wasn´t I just happy with my lot and the two perfect children I´ve already been blessed with, I´m too old (38), what if something goes wrong, how will I cope with having very little family around and a DH who works very long hours, I don´t want to be a sleep-deprived snappy, miserable Mum, that´s so unfair on my elsdest two...oh I could go on, I feel awful and have started to think this is all just a big mistake.

Can anybody give me a good slap and tell me to snap out of it????

I think you probably thought about all of this before deciding to try for number three, and you probably (sensibly) decided that just as you found ways to cope with one, and two, you will find ways to cope with three. Your older two may be delighted to have a small sibling. If you hadn't 'gone for it' you might have spent the rest of your life regretting that. Both my mother and MIL would have liked a third, and we are trying for our third now. As things stand it's going to be tough to afford it, but I am certain that we will find a way. You will certainly find a way. And 38 isn't too old - I was 38 when I had my first and now that I'm 41 I don't feel too old to be having a third.

You will all be fine.

I have 3 under 5 and panicked when I got pregnant with dc3. They were all planned. Now dc3 is 6m and it is a lot easier. Dc is ebf too. It has been a struggle for the first few months but I have involved the older two with dc3 as far as they can so they don't feel sidelined. When dc3 is asleep I make sure I spend that time with dc1 and Dc2 so they have lots of attention too. I'm so glad that I just went for it. I'm sure you will cope fine.

I felt the same panic when I found out was pg wth DC3 even though it was planned. I soon pushed those thoughts aside and enjoyed my final pregnancy and now DD is here I am so happy we went for it! Yes it is hard but then so is having 2 children so its just a bit of extra chaos thrown in but a lot more love thrown back. Seeing my two DSs dote on their little sister is the best!

Good luck and congratulations!
p.s. Get used to strangers telling you you'll have your hands full at least twice a day!