how would you have handled this seat fight!

[PooPooInMyToes]

How would you have handled this?

Dd 6 was sitting towards one end of the sofa. She moved so Ds 3 sat in her place. Daughter starts moaning that he's in her place. I tell her its too bad and to sit at the other end of the sofa. She's making a big fuss.

She sits in middle of sofa but so that she is as close to him as she can get squashing him. She's putting her feet over into his space which he keeps moving back. I tell her to pack it in.

She keep whining and crying and moaning about it so i pick her up and sit her at the other end of the sofa. She carries on crying about it.

I told her to stop it and she didn't so i put her on the naughty step.

What would you have done?

Not much advice but I often get this going on with my two (age 8 and 3).
Will watch to see what others suggest.

I don't actually 'get' naughty steps. However, I don't want to listen to whining so it can be played out in a room behind a closed door where I can't hear it any more. I wouldn't physically pick up a six year-old - that's for tantrumming toddlers. A firm 'if you're going to whine you can do it in your room' and a finger pointing in the relevant direction should be enough. Child can return when they've stopped being ridiculous.

i get the same! i would have ignored the whining etc, and told her to just get off the sofa if she couldnt sit nicely.

not sure it warrants time out, i would have just told her to go and find something to play with etc.

and what cogito said!

i do the go away and come back when you are going to be reasonable!

I put her on the step so that i didn't have to listen to the noise, to give her a chance to calm down and for me not to lose my temper.

I told her to move up or sit somewhere else and she wouldn't which was why i picked her up.

If mine are arguing about something, none of them get it. It might seem unfair on one of them but frequently I'm not in the room when the trouble starts so have no idea who is really in the right. I figure it probably evens itself out in the end. Often just my saying share or none of you get it encourages them to sort it out between themselves.

So in this instance I'd have made them both get off the sofa, which might seem unfair on your ds this time, but next time might be him in the wrong. I do find it encourages them not to moan at me about each other so much.

I do that sometimes awimba, but wouldn't have done that about the seats because i was here when it happened and my son wasn't in the wrong. She may have been sitting their first but she got up so tough! Im fed up with her trying to get her own way all the time!