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Discipline without the negative tone, facials and shouting. How?

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Littlerayofsunshine · 19/04/2012 13:23

Lately I have been under a lot of stress & upset. I have the most amazing DP who is away until October, has been away since December. The circumstances are very personal and sensitive.

We have a remarkable little princess who is 17.5m and I am due to give birth in 4.5 weeks with DC2.

I know that DD is teething on & of lately but seems very confused about Daddy not being here, and has days where she wants to be a bit cheeky (normal toddler behaviour i know) the real issue is me, and my emotions. I feel like i'm telling her off too much. up until all of this happened, I believe in the calm, laid back, loving approach. And I still do, and try to encorporate this, but when it doesnt work. my patience wears thin and i end up using the frowns, shout "NO", and get upset myself.

How do you find the best way to talk to your child when they're playing up a bit? without using the horrible tone, frowns etc.

Pregnancy has been very hard this time around whilst doing it alone. but no way am i allowing it to effect DD.

Shes such a kind-hearted soul, and the moajority of the time we're good. and cope with eachother as it is tough right now. but the days when its bad, I just feel a wreck, and she must get so confused. I hate raising my voice, but i think where i've been using it lately thats when she listens, sometimes she doesnt.

this is probably a load of bore, but thanks :)

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lola88 · 20/04/2012 13:17

keep your face neutral don't smile or frown, take a second to decide what you are going to say to her and how to put it eg 'put it down now' or 'your not to lift that can you put it down please' speak slowly calmly at her level while looking in her eyes when she does as you ask say thank you.

OneHandFlapping · 20/04/2012 13:21

I may have been wrong, but I always felt that it was my disapproval which motivated my (then) LOs to stop misbehaving. I used to deliberately adopt a frown, even when I might've inwardly felt like laughing, and say "No, don't do that. It's dangerous/dirty/rude etc". I did try not to shout - not always successful.

rationality · 24/04/2012 01:06

DS (nearly two) now freezes if I raise an eyebrow and point at him - he knows the naughty chair will be the next step! Sadly it also means if he's demanding his Thomas DVD or dinner in his whingey, whiney way and I point at him, he starts crying because he knows he isn't going to get his way.

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