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Living in a flat with toddler

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EuroExpat · 09/02/2006 15:41

One of my elderly neighbours left an (initialed) note in my postbox this morning telling me to "do something about" my dd, who is 17m old and as he points out, is prone to shrieking. This seems to last a few weeks at a time and coincides with teething periods. I think it´s already calmed down.
So, any tips re keeping the noise down in a flat with a toddler or how to deal with the neighbour (who incidentally shouted at us in the corridor a few months ago about her noise!) Incidentally, we don´t have a common language. Thanks.

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CarlyP · 09/02/2006 15:50

Yep, id use the world known language of hand gestures! a big 'v' would be in order!

lazycow · 09/02/2006 15:54

My thinking exactly CarlyP

Easy · 09/02/2006 15:55

Send a note back. be apologetic, but explain that young children do tend to cry, esp when they are cutting teeth, that you do what you can to calm dd, but some noise is inevitable.

I don't think being rude in reply is particularly helpful, especially across different cultures and languages.

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expatinscotland · 09/02/2006 15:56

Um, that's too bad. He can complain all he wants, but honeslty there's FA he can do about, the auld git.

The only tips I know of - we live in a flat w/a toddler and a baby - is to not wear shoes in the house and put the washing machine on when he gets really cranky.

beejay · 09/02/2006 15:56

Oh god how irritating for you... i would really try and ignore the neighbour. Kids are kids, they make noise! And make the world a richer place for it...

In terms of practical considerations, do you have carpets, heavy curtains etc? Might cut down on the noise a bit...

CarlyP · 09/02/2006 15:56

it may not be 'helpful' but it would sure as hell get the message across. she must KNOW that babies make noise. thats life. silly old moo

expatinscotland · 09/02/2006 15:57

I mean, it's a flat, not a library.

Want to live in a quiet, peaceful place? Want to play loud music at all hours? Move to a house in the country. Otherwise, it's just part of the deal.

Lio · 09/02/2006 16:06

Hello Euro, I know I'm not being helpful exactly, but just so you know that not all neighbours are like this and he is not being as reasonable as he could be: when I was in similar position with downstairs neighbours trying to sleep through us control crying ds, I apologised the next day and they shrugged en masse and said 'He's a baby' as if it were obvious that crying was acceptable. They were lovely Afghan refugees and couldn't have been kinder. Not read the replies you've received, but I don't expect there IS a way to be silent with a 17m old, you just have to find the strength from somewhere to realise that you are not going to manage keeping your ds and the neighbour happy all the time and remember who is more important.

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EuroExpat · 09/02/2006 18:24

Thanks Ladies! I´m going for the very polite note option I think, although very very tempted by less diplomatic means... Must also get round to buying rugs as that might just cut down on the echo.

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