HELP!!! Going on hen weekend - leaving 8 month old

[mcnoodle]

I'm going on a hen weekend next friday - to Poland (!) leaving 8 month old ds for 3 days. Up til now I've never left him for more than a couple of hours in the day and we've been out in the evening, but always home afterwards.

Am looking forward to being away, tucked up in spa hotel with bottle of vodka, but dreading leaving him. I feel really unorganised, in that he is bf and I haven't started expressing yet. DH will be looking after him (which will be a good wake-up call for him!) and he will take a bottle, and not averse to the occassional bottle of formula these days.

Can I do it?! Just get on the plane and leave him. What if I can't stop crying? Am sure bride will be thrilled to see my blubbering face at Gatwick.

Just need some reassurance that I can go and ds not scarred for life because I abandoned him to drink vodka and dance to madonna.

you will be fine, baby will be fine and so will dh.
It's good for all of you. Go enjoy - you may not get another opportunity for a while and you will regret it if you don't go. Keep busy, stay happy, the time will fly and you'll be home before you know it.

Have a good time (I'm jealous !!)

I had to leave my dd several times to go on work trips. I found them generally liberating but found I missed her far towards the end of the trip more than at the beginning...
I do think I came back a more refreshed mum for it though!
And of course she was absolutely fine...

It's hard the first time, but you and ds will both be fine... you will probably cry - but just accept it as part of the package!

I am leaving 4 yr old ds and 8 month old dd in a few weeks to go visit my sister in Spain. It's the first time I'll have left dd, but from experience of leaving ds, I fully expect to blub unattractively at the airport, have a quiet sniffle at bedtime when drunk on red wine and then be really really pleased to see them when I get back. Oh, and the night before I go I will really annoy dh by saying I don't want to go. But generally I am looking forward to 48 hours of seeing my sister, trying on endless shoes and sitting in cafes.

Have a wonderful time.

Thanks! I know it'll be fine, but just needed to hear it said. When I tried to talk to DH about it last night he, in classic bloke style said "You'll be fine" and turned to his laptop to start fettling with some geek business.

Will find big sunglasses for airport sniffles.

Oh my god - so exciting to be going away. Yipee!

I'm going on a hen weekend tomorrow and can't wait. My 2 dd's are 3 and 2 so I know they can live without me. I was like you the first time though. You do miss them when you are away but it's not as bad as you think.

Enjoy the break, it'll keep you refreshed for a while.

Oh you sound like me only my ds will only be 5mths and i will be leaving him with DH for 3 nights! Mine will also be a hen-do that has been booked since before I fell pregnant and I have been umming and arring as to whether or not to cancel. The more I think about it though, yeah it will be heartbreaking to leave him but if I didn't go it would be like saying to DH that I don't think he can cope on his own - it would annoy me if it was the other way round so. I bet you go, have a fantastic time and feel refreshed when you get back, that's what I plan to do hopefully.

I am also worried about crying in front of the bride-to-be, but I guess they will be understanding if it is the first time we have left our babies.

Hope you enjoy yourself