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Please tell me lots of nice things about having two girls!

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Doitnicelyplease · 13/04/2012 21:30

Similar to the other thread about boys, we found out our DC2 will be DD2, have only told my mum so far and definitely got an underwhelmed response. Feels like there is a lot of expectation on us to have a boy next, and I hate that vibe you get 'oh well another girl, ho hum'.

Me and DH are very excited about having another little girl and feel very blessed as this pregnancy is coming after 4 miscarriages (which is also the probable reason that there will be no DC3), but we would love to hear from those with experience what life with two girls is like : )

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familyfun · 13/04/2012 21:36

i have a 3 yr gap between my 2 girls and they share a room, play with some shared toys together well, always kiss and cuddle, dont like to sleep without sister next to them, get excited when they see each other after school, dd2 wears a lot of dd1s clothes so we have saved lots of money.
they also get jealous, snatch, dd2 knocks down dd1s lego.
but they love each other more than anyone else and dd1s school books had lots of pictures of her sister on parents evening Smile

oh and we still get comments are we going to try again for a boy, shame we havent got a boy etc, its so annoying and rude.

SandStorm · 13/04/2012 21:37

I have two girls and like you and your DH we were both really happy when we found out DC2 was also a girl.

We had lots of pink around the house, lots of cuddles (between the girls), dd1 loved playing 'mum' with dd2 (5 year age gap so she was actually very useful!), lots of hand me down clothes and toys.

Now they're older (14 and 9) dd1 is fabulous at dishing out fashion advice and making up dd2 with her old blusher etc. They share music taste and gossip about One Direction etc. In a few years they'll probably be sharing boyfriends!

They're best of friends and worst of enemies and I wouldn't have it any other way.

pud1 · 13/04/2012 21:41

I have 2 Dds aged 2 and 4. They are also very loving to each other and play together as they share the same toys. They love to role play together and it can be lovely watching them. They are always happy to see each other when they have been apart. I hand dd1s clothes down, this has saved us a fortune. They do fight a bit but in general they are lovely together. I do wonder what my answer to this question will be when I have 2 teenage girls though

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Joolyjoolyjoo · 13/04/2012 21:43

I have 2 girls, 17 mths apart. I was sure dd2 was going to be another girl, and I was delighted that she was! I am an only, but both my best friends have sisters they are really close to, and I was always soo jealous of them. My elder dd really looks out for her younger sister- dd2 has been experiencing some mild bullying at school (getting left out) and dd1 has really stepped up to make sure she is ok. As a result, dd2 is coping with it really easily. I am so proud of the bond between them (despite the fact that they fight like cat and dog sometimes at home!)

Hand-me-downs abound- great to get more than one wear out of that "special" outfit

I have a ds too now, and DH and I both feel a bit bad that he doesn't have a brother (but not bad enough to have any more!!)

If I was only to have had 2, I would have preferred 2 of the same sex, any day.

MrsLetchlady · 13/04/2012 22:03

I have two girls with 3 years age difference.

TBH, two girls was what I always wanted imagined, and I was very pleased to have been lucky enough to have had two girls.

I have to say that it is lovely. Of course they fight, and do all the usual sibling stuff (particularly when tired), but on the other hand, they really are the best of friends.

They regularly choose to play together at school, despite having their own friends. At home, they always play together too - role play and as they both like gymnastics, DD1 is always helping DD2 with her moves. She really encourages her on etc... They really are so important to each other, They both always cite each other as their best friend and the other day DD2 said she loves her big sister more than she loves her parents! And it is so cute when they decide to have a 'sleepover' together and they snuggle down together in the same bed.

Because they are the same gender - they very much share the same interests, hobbies, type of play etc and even have lots of girl sibling friends. They have a closeness that I never had with my brother, despite getting on well with him. Two of the same is lovely, and I consider my girls to be very lucky to have each other.

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Doitnicelyplease · 14/04/2012 16:40

Thanks ladies, sounds lovely :)

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nickelhasababy · 14/04/2012 16:44

Two girls is awesome!

you've got a ready-made best friend, and worst enemy! Grin
I've got 2 sisters, and I can't imagine it any other way.

you can hand-me-down clothes without other parents doing Hmm faces, they can share toys, they can explore and take over the world!

think of the possibilities!
They can both break the glass ceiling - you won't have to worry that you'll be judged for treating the boy better/worse than the girl, you won't have to worry that you're forcing the boy to do more housework because he's a boy, and you won't worry that you're making the girl do more because she's a girl (both breaking and adhering to gender stereotypes)

nickelhasababy · 14/04/2012 16:46

actually, i think it's really helpful in puberty too - they might be uncomfortable talking to mum and dad about body bits and boys etc, but they'll be able to confide in each other.

bibbitybobbitybunny · 14/04/2012 16:52

First of all doitnicely, am so glad you have got through your run of miscarriages and that dd2 is on her way Smile.

I have a girl then a boy and both sets of grandparents definitely gave us "extra" congratulations to have been so clever to have a boy second time - and that really irritated me because it was like they were saying they wouldn't have been quite so delighted had dc2 been another girl - so yanbu to feel cross about the ho hum response!

I am quite certain that your two dds will have a load of fun together and might even turn out to be best friends for life! Good luck with it all.

SkinnyVanillaLatte · 14/04/2012 16:58

Mine have told me that they aren't ever going to get married.They are going to live together.

I think they'll need to stop fighting so much first.

sunnyday123 · 14/04/2012 17:15

i have 2 girls - aged 4 and 6. Having two girls is fab! They are the best of friends and entertain and play with each other all day long! - fight like crazy too though:) . DD age 4 misses DD age 6 soooo much when she's at school!

I am also only having 2 kids and in a lot of ways i think if you are only going to have 2 its best to have them both the same - both my brothers have one of each and say its like having 2 only children as they have few similar interests, especially as they get older.

Also our weekends are spent together at dancing, rainbows,etc etc whereas if we had one of each, myself and DH would be off doing separate things like dancing and football.

Holidays are fab as both get up and dance on stage and have a ready made friend wanting the same experiences! There's never any shyness etc that some kids have the first few days.

You'll also save money - not only on clothes but toys, bikes, swimming/ garden accessories - my entire house is pink!

Before i had 2 girls i always thought one of each is ideal but no way do i think that now :)

urbancowgirl · 14/04/2012 19:37

I´m sure there was a study recently that said 2 girls was the most ´happy´number of children in terms of family harmony, keeping in touch with each other and parents in their old age etc etc

4 girls as a combination was the worst

bibbitybobbitybunny · 14/04/2012 19:49

how nice it would be if we could just be happy with the children we have without having to feel superior about it sunnyday123.

RabidAnchovy · 14/04/2012 20:00

You will never be a toxic MIL on MN because as the parent of girls you are the primary mother/grandmother
Alas I have two boys so await being the MIL from hell Grin

kerala · 14/04/2012 20:04

There was a study a few months ago saying that families with 2 girls were the happiest Grin. So there you go!

Its heaven. Ours are 3 and 5 and now play together beautifully. Today they were mermaids - disappeared into their bedroom for 2 hours Shock. DH and I got to read the paper. They are very sweet to each other and kind (as long as all is going DD1s way which it usually is). I feel very lucky and was thrilled when we found DD2 was a girl. I have 2 sisters and we have a great relationship and played for hours as children.

kerala · 14/04/2012 20:05

Oh yes we have the getting married thing too. DD2 adamant that she is going to marry DD1 when she is a lady.

MsTimTam · 14/04/2012 20:06

Congratulations on your pregnancy Smile

I have two girls - it's fab!! Have saved loads on clothes but besides that dd1 has been besotted by dd2 since before she was born and they play (mostly!) really well together - in the mud, running about, dancing, with their toys. Mine are still very young (5 & 2) and like a mixture of things - as much as dd1 loves princesses and pink, she also wants to be a ninja and does a mean dinosaur roar and jedi fighting Grin. They're both amazingly cuddly and affectionate with both dh and me.

We did have comments about 'will you try for a boy?' (no!) and 'doesn't your dh want a boy?' (no!). To be honest I probably would have liked one of each as it was different to what I grew up with (1 sister) but now I have 2 dd's I wouldn't change it for the world.

WhatWouldFreddieDo · 14/04/2012 20:20

Congratulations!

We have 3 girls, and DP's family is very conservative and we were the last chance to 'carry on the name' - so you can imagine some of the pressure and comments after dd2. But we knew we were lucky to have 2 beautiful healthy girls (there's family history of genetic illness) and then when dd3 came along we were just thrilled (a matching set, as my mother put it).

As it turns out, there's not much pink in this house and they're all tomboys to some extent or another, and mostly get on very well and are just a joy except the last 3 days of holidays

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Doitnicelyplease · 14/04/2012 20:23

Thanks for the kind words Bibbity, brought a tear to my (hormonal) eye Thanks

Such lovely stories from everyone :)

I have one older brother so I am very excited for DD to experience life as a big sister to a sister!

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Icedlemonmuffin · 14/04/2012 20:31

I have two girls dd1 is nearly nine and dd2 is nearly fifteen months (big gap not through choice tried for three years and a mmc).

Two girls is lovely, dd2 adores her big sister and dd1 thinks her little sister is amazing and loves it when she learns something new. Both girls are very much daddy's girls.

We had lots of negative comments when we found out we were having another girl but I just smiled and said we were very happy just to be pregnant.

I have four sisters and my sister has twin girls and I love the relationship we all have.

KateShmate · 14/04/2012 20:33

Congratulations :)

We have 5 daughters; youngest 3 are triplets so obviously close, but our older 2 are 4YO and 5YO and just adore each other.
DDs will happily go up to their bedrooms and play for hours - the games they came up with are just hilarious, and they are so cute playing together.
They used to absolutely love it being at nursery/preschool together - DD2 is a September baby so is going to school this year - the main reason she is so excited is that she'll be able to see DD1 all day!
There are so many lovely times that they have together - even watching a DVD on a sunday afternoon, they usually fall asleep in each others arms!
They are like a little double-act, soo cheeky! Its funny how they bring each other out too - DD1 is quite shy (not at home!) and loves being babied, whereas DD2 is hyper, extremely outgoing and acts so grown up - DD2 really brings out DD1 and encourages her to do things, and at other times DD1 helps 'calm' DD2 ;)
Its so lovely hearing them at bedtime - they used to have separate bedrooms, but when out DTrip's went into their own room together (hated sleeping in separate rooms) DD1 and 2 flatly refused to sleep separately - if DTrips could share a room, so could they! Although we normally hear fits of giggles at night time, if we are careful and catch them out then we can hear the most lovely 'sister talks' :)

Girls are so lovely :) I'm so close to my sisters, and I'm so so glad that my DD's will have that bond as they grow up.

Finocchio · 14/04/2012 20:35

I thought that having 2 girls was so nice we had a 3rd too. I'm quite biased as my sister has been my closest friend for most of my life so for me, sisters are just great. My 3 girls get on pretty well, mostly, they do fight and squabble but they are such good company for each other too.

surroundedbyblondes · 14/04/2012 20:49

Yep, another happy mum of 2 girls Smile Ours are 3.5 and 1.5 and love each other more than anything. I love the idea that they will have each other growing up and be there for each other even when we're not around.

Both DH and I agree our family is complete with our lovely girls.

They share a lot of things, and we can happily pass clothes along.

Have a lovely time with two princesses. You certainly deserve it after what you must have gone through with your MCs

FerryGirl · 14/04/2012 20:54

2 girls here too and I love it. We may be going for a third and I would be delighted with another girl - my two are so close and lovely friends for each other - congratulations!

shebird · 14/04/2012 21:50

Congratulations! I can only echo all of the positives of the above as a mum of 2 girls. It is such a pleasure watching their relationship grow and seeing how they have formed a close bond. There is more chance they will get along as they have more in common growing up. Yes there are squabbles but it's all pretty normal. My DH has one sister and they never got along growing up - he was a boys boy and she was a girlie girl they had nothing in common and always argued so he was pleased to have two girls.