How is the Naughty Chair/Step Supposed to Work?

[moonblushtomato]

When my 3yo DD is naughty I make her sit on said step for about one minute then I say, "Are you ready to come off now and say sorry?"

Which she does, we hug and then start afresh, until the next time and the next and the next.

My point is that the introduction of the naughty step chez nous has made no difference whatsoever to her behaviour.

Quick description of behaviour - saying "I don't like you" (to me mainly), pulling horrible faces, being defiant, cheeky, stubborn, fighting with brother physically and verbally,being contrary....basically not the lovely little girl I thought I would get.......or is this just plain and simple 3yo extreme behaviour.

I think it's one minute for every year of their age. So 3 mins for her.
Tell her what she did wrong when you put her on there and repeat it when you go to fetch her and tell her it's not acceptable behaviour.
Ask for apology and that she won't repeat the behaviour and then hug and kiss.
Hth

Naughty step should be somewhere out of the way of playing etc (maybe in corner of kitchen - depends on house layout). Your DD should be there for 3 minutes, or until she has calmed down - Ie. if she is having a tantrum, or still shouting and screaming at you.
Before you place on naughty step, she needs a firm warning (unless serious behaviour and then is straight to step!) "DD, you stop that behaviour right now or you will be going straight to the naughty step!"
If she carries on then you take her to said step and ignore for the 3 minutes. Sounds mean, but try and make sure she can hear you having fun with her brother - she won't like feeling left out, and consequently won't want to go to the step next time.
When you collect her from step, its not all over and done with - is the main part really. You need to explain, firmly, what she has done wrong and that you will not have her behaving like that again - if she does then she will be coming back to the naughty step. You need to stay firm until kiss and cuddle and she apologises. If it was hurting her brother then she needs to apologise to him too.

It makes it seem so easy when its written down!

Thanks, I hadn't tried the bit where me and DS are playing and laughing i.e. making her feel left out.

I wish I could have a crystal ball and know that some time in the future she will stop behaving like this as it upsets me so much!!

When we're at total loggerheads I can't seem to imagine ever having a close relationship with her. I thought having a daughter would mean we'd be two peas in a pod.