Someone please tell me I'm not alone :(

[DomesticGoddess31]

My 10month DD is upstairs screaming blue murder again. DH trying to settle her after numerous failed attempts by me. Her screaming honestly sounds like someone being murdered and is agony to listen to made all the worse by the fact she won't be consoled by her mum and dad :(
This is pretty typical behaviour from her....if she can't get straight to sleep when we put her down cue the screaming.

any tips on how I can help her gratefully received, we have tried sleep training techniques, and all the usual rocking, singing etc etc but mostly I just want to know we're not alone.....none of my mum friends seem to have a baby whos this bad (or they aren't admitting it to me)

She's usually grumpy in the daytime too unless I'm helping her to walk.

I keep waiting for it to get better but it just doesn't and I'm feeling quite low about it at the moment.

Go upstairs with some warm milk, cuddle, lights low or off, gentle hum lullaby or story. She is too young to know better and sounds like she needs comforting x

Anytime my dd is like that it normally turns out to be either teething or the start of a bug. Are either of those a possibilty?

And yes, I just try and write off the evening and go for comforting and cuddles, they're little creatures of instinct and need at this age and generally scream for a reason, but it's awful when you cant figure out what th reason is isnt it?

You're not alone, 1yo DS is a massive grump.

He went through a similar phase at a similar age. He couldn't crawl or even roll, but discovered he could walk holding our hands and get wherever he wanted. So he was grumpy all the time unless he was walking with us.

It's very wearing. I sympathise.

What you must remember is that some babies are just difficult. No matter what you do they will be harder than other people's babies.

If you have a few children you realise that some just are easy and some are hard and you got the short straw this time. Your next baby might be easier than all your friends.
But things will get better, your baby is so young. Before you know it she will be sitting beside you as a sensible little girl and you won't believe where the time went.
Constant crying/whinging is really stressful so make sure you are getting a break from her regularly. You need it to gather your resources.
Just remember that this is a phase and it WILL pass.

Well articulated, DaintyNuts.

My DD is only 17 weeks but I posted last night looking to find out if it gets easier. She screams at night and I've never heard another baby scream like this, my DH decribes it as heart wrenching. I do wonder if more people have this but don't like to say.

Just wanted to post as it really helped me to get support last night and as everyone said... it will pass...

9 month old DS is the same. DH cant settle him as he just wants me and even then with me he cries/screams, especially when I try to put him in his cot.

I do sympathise, but can't offer any practical help I am afraid!

What are the daytime naps like? DS doesn't nap for long during the day and I do wonder if it's over tiredness.

was just gonna suggest overtiredness. Ds1 and Ds2 were\are screaming monsters if overtired at bedtime.

Thank you all, it so helps to know I'm not the only one. It makes me feel like such a shit parent when she's crying and I can't do anything to make her feel better.
ComeTalkToMe know exactly what you mean about the heart wrenching screaming. My sister and a number of my mum friends have even commented on how sad my DD's cry is....she always sheds real tears too, it instantly grabs at your heart strings.

She's asleep now...it was definitely tummy ache this time so feeling better that I've managed to solve it for once HURRAH!!!!!

scrivette, Similar here, DH can sometimes settle her but when she's gone 'supernova' its only me really that can calm her down and even thats not always possible....like you, I sometimes have to cuddle till she calms down and then attempt to lay her back down a few times before she will let me without screaming again. Its exhausting, mentally and physically. Her daytime naps have never been great, she used to have 3x40min naps when it was all going well, but over the last week seems to have dropped a nap and consolidated her lunchtime and afternoon nap into one longer afternoon nap. I'd be doing a little victory dance about that if it were consistent at all but my DD has never been very predictable. Am hoping it'll settle down soon. I've often wondered if its over tiredness though like you but we've tried earlier bedtimes and enforcing naps and neither helps, just stresses me out more.