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How to deal with behaviour when you don't understand it

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PooPooInMyToes · 09/04/2012 18:50

Yes its me again.

I was really looking forward to the Easter holidays and spending some time with the children going to parks and things. Obviously the weather hasn't been great but we've done a fair amount. I try to take them out but also have days at home just playing so they don't get over stimulated.

This week though my daughter has been going through one of her difficult weeks. She has been what i call grabby grabby, all me me me, i want, what about me, crying a lot, she even lied last week to get her own way which i started a thread about. She's whining about everything, has no patience, asking for things over and over when specifically told not to. Her behaviour is just much worse then usual. She actually doesn't seem to realise that the world doesn't revolve around her this week.

While writing this message she asked my husband if she could watch a film. He said no and gave a reason which was that he and younger child were about to watch a tv program together. She cried and then went off and tried to sneakily get younger child to say he wanted to watch the film too. She got picked up on this. She was told no and not to ask again. Two minutes later whining and crying Why can't i watch the film? I told her off for going on. Its the same manipulative behaviour she was showing last week when she lied.

Earlier she was being spoilt about Easter eggs and saying she wanted more Is that it!? Etc. Embarrassing as the eggs were a gift and horrible because i won't have my child acting like a spoilt brat!

She is now bossing little one around.

Oh now she's actually crying because she's cold! Tears for being cold!

She seems to get like this every now and then and i don't understand why. Does anyone have a child who does the same or who understands why?

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BertieBotts · 09/04/2012 18:51

How old is she? Could it be puberty hormones starting maybe?

PooPooInMyToes · 09/04/2012 18:53

Wow you read that fast! She has just turned 6, year 1.

She has always been like this really. Even as a baby.

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Molehillmountain · 09/04/2012 20:05

My dd can be like that. I feel your pain. Through her grotty moments I have a bit of a mantra that the more she behaves like that the more she needs loving. My dd is the same age and I think a lot of it comes down to needing more control over her life than she has because of siblings and it shows itself in manipulative behaviour and possessiveness (toys, friends, my time, activities, you name it). I'm trying to talk nicely, even when my gut says shout, to give her choices when I curl up and want to say she doesn't deserve it, to try to give her time with me when really sometimes I want to escape her. Basically, I'm trying to be loving when I feel like it and when I don't. Shes improving slowly. Very slowly! But it's very very hard work sometimes and I am just rubbish at it esp when I'm tired and there's stuff to get done (9 month old dd2 and 3 year old Ds so basically all the time). I heard the phrase "fake it til you feel it" and that's another one I repeat to myself constantly.

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PooPooInMyToes · 09/04/2012 21:29

Mole. Thank you, it does help to know Im not the only one struggling with it. She does love me all to herself and it would probably help but hasn't been possible for a few weeks. You know how it is.

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PooPooInMyToes · 10/04/2012 09:44

What's that jinnie? Can you repost it as clickable link?

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