Issue with ds - inappropriate words & behaviour

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ds is 8.5yo.
For the last few weeks (months?) he has been talking a lot about poo, wee, willy etc... Up to there no issue.

But it has move to showing his willy to dc2, shaking it in front of his face.
Constant comment about things being sexy (not that he has any idea of what it means lol), tickling his soft toy willy, playing with his soft toys and putting one's face on the other's bottom etc...
At the same time, he has been trying to touch dc2 willy and when starting to fight, he aiming to this area too.

Of course, dc2 now does the same, in part because 'it's funny' and in part as a retaliation'.

No amount of talking etc.. has made any difference.
I do realize that most of it is 'play' and 'discovery' but he really need to get that some areas of the body are out of touch.

Any idea?

I guess this is learned behaviour. Bet he is copying someone, maybe an older boy or someone who is slightly more precocious?
Take no notice, but move him away from him/them as quickly and quietly as possible. It will probably be forgotten within a month.
Talk about poo and willy is harmless, although it can be embarrassing at the wrong times. Keep your SOH

Ds1 is obsessed with willy's bums and all things "sexy" at the moment he's 7. Think it's been picked up on the playground and hoping it's a phase.

tickling his soft toy willy? He has a toy willy?

no he hasn't lol!
He is pretending that his soft toy has a willy and is tickling it!

Agree too that he must have picked that up at school. The sexy comment certainly. Not sure about the rest and have no idea where he could have picked that one up from...

But I can hardly ignore the shaking of his willy 5cm from his brother face!

Phew!

No idea what you can do about it though but will watch with interest as I have a ds and may need the advice in the future. [bugrin]

Tell him off like you would for any other unacceptable behaviour. No need for grand explanations just that he has to 'stop' or there will be repercussions. He probably thinks it's funny and you have to make sure he's aware that it's not funny at all and is getting him in trouble. Ask him 'who does that'... see if you can track down who (if anyone) he is copying. I'd also have a word with the teacher at school.... if he's copying bad behaviour/language in the playground they need to be aware of it. It's usually very small children that do this kind of thing because they don't know any better.