Starve the buggers?

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Hello

I have 2 dds, age just 3 and 7.5. They are good girls and the eldest especially is spooky well behaved.

The eldest has always had a tiny appetite, probably due to the ongoing chronic constipation. SHe never had an appetite even for chocolate or crisps but with our hard work and lots of wheatabix she maintained her growth. She continues to be treated with a mixture of laxatives. As an older child she is putting on more weight as she has begun eating pizza and chocolate.

The youngest had a crap appetite from the get go, tried things as a weaning baby but soon went on the refusal. She is going the way of her sister with constipation, witholding and she is developing the same mega colon constipation.

Now I am at the stage where the girls diet is shrinking to stupid levels.

The eldest: will try things as I can manipulate and guilt her in to it. Which is no way to parent and a shit way to feel as a child. SHe doesn't enjoy new foods and is stuck with her few staples. Not toooooo bad but depressing in it's self as I love cooking and I know a fair bit about nutrition.

The youngest, Exists on noodles, ham sarnies and occasional strawberries.

WWYD? I can't go one worrying about it all, I'll go mad! Plus it does not make for a happy childhood. Shall I jsut starve them so they eat normal healthy food, or go along with it, or some other method?

The whole thing makes me feel like a failure.

There's obviously more to it than straight forward fussiness. You sound like great parents. What about contacting HV or GP?

Hello sorry for delay. This thread had gone to the bottom of my list adn I thought there'd been no other posts. Sorry!

There are certainly many factors to dd1s eating habits. DD2 I don't know. I think she is a very strong wiled toddler. Very strongwiled. Like a dictator type person.

So I made a list of the foods each child will eat. I spilt it into food groups and actual meals like chicken korma. DD1s list is better than expected. I plan to stick it to the larder cupboard so I can look at it and plan a meal. Also to remind me 'Oh yes she likes mango - if I say would you like some mango she will say no so I'll just give her it and tell her to eat up'

That's my plan.

DD2 has a short list - manly noodles. SHe has eaten more fruit than we realised so maybe we need to push those more.

That's mi plan.