So I need some help with the training of the potty kind.....

[mammamoomin]

Obviously I am not potty training myself but my DD.... DD knows when she needs to go for either a wee or a poo... but will not use the potty at all. When she needs to go she asks whether or not she has a nappy on. When I reply no you have big girl knickers; do you need to get your potty? She says no... but then waits until she has a nappy on in the evenings to do all her wees or asks to put a nappy on so she can go.

Has anyone come across this before? My sister, who childminds for me, hasn't had this before so we are both a little stumped.

Surely holding it in for that long isn't good for her? We've never made a big deal out of accidents so can't think that she's scared that she'll be in trouble...

Any help would be gratefully received.

am skirting the issue with DS at the moment. Seems not keen to actually sit on the potty. It was suggested to me that you should loosen the nappy but sit them on so they still go in the nappy but on the potty as a first step. Best of luck - check in occasionally - we can be training buddies!

I have had this for a while. I would say around two months ago DD (2.7 years) was coming home from pre-school and one day she decided that she didn't want the nappy in the house. But she would she would ask for a nappy if she needed a poo which made me think she knew very well the differences between wee and poo.

We have been like this for ages. The odd day she would ask to go to school without a nappy and those days she would hold wees and poos (but it was her desision and she was happy doing it). Three weeks ago she decided that she didn't want a nappy during the day anymore. With me she does not have any accident at all and she is having dry naps in the afternoon but it is completely different when she is in the pre-school or with the childminder that take her to school the days I work. Last week she started asking her main carer for the potty at the school but she isn't asking the childminder at all yet.

It is very funny because when I pick her up from the childminder and we leave her house the first think she asks me is for a wee in the street .

I think what your child may be doing is experimenting and it is completely normal. You don't mention her age but if you want to let her do it on her own pace do not hurry her up. She needs to go through this stage to learn properly. DD is even using the toilets when we are out an about but she will have two or three accidents if I am not with her .

Thank you people....

DD is 2 and 7 months :) Will give the loosened nappy a try. Asked at a Children's Centre today too and that's what they advised.... oh this parenting lark is a blimmin mindfield!!!