shouting!

[PooPooInMyToes]

I am fed up with my children shouting! I hate it! I hate the shouting for no reason, just while talking (why do they not have volume control!?) and i hate the shouting while bickering which escalates and gets louder and louder combined with rude moany screechy voice.

I suspect i have issues because my brother always shouted as a child. No one ever told him not to so it was constant, the moment i woke up until after i went to sleep. The walls were like paper so i never got any peace.

In case you are wondering he clearly had some sort of undiagnosed sn.

When my children shout its like it reaches in a triggers off years and years of frustration and hate of the noise. I even find myself thinking . . .

Why are you shouting? Are you fucking thick? . . .

Which is what i used to think about my brother when i was a child because i didn't understand what was different about him.

Yes! I have issues!

Help?

Keep reminding them when the noise levels get too high and separate them into different rooms if they're bickering. I think some children don't realise how loud they're being together, even if they're not actually shouting, and the reminders bring it down temporarily. Bickering is just not acceptable... very wearing.

I keep reminding them over and over but it keeps on! Its making me mental!

Thanks for your reply.

Poor PooPoo (again)! I'm sure it maddening for you, esp when there is usually no need for it. My DD (10) has always had a moany whining voice and is pretty loud. I have to constantly tell her to use a normal voice and stop the winging and screeching. Sometimes I say to DCs, particularly DD, 'turn the volume down'. If it's such a pressing problem for you why don't you actually make a volume control button out of a sticker and make them walk round with it stuck on!!! Is that too bonkers? Do you have any pets? I tell my DD that she is scaring them if she is too loud, that usually helps as she adores her guinea pigs.

Do you shout much or raise your voice, I know i can do when I'm cross but I always try to check myself and use a lower firmer voice. I tell them that they never resolve anything by shouting and it justs get everyones backs up and they are on a road to nowhere. Good luck, roll on back to school....

Thanks senses. Only just seen your message. They seem to have got over their loud stage a bit. Im thinking it was exaggerated by my pmt! That makes everything worse!