Should I take DD out of nursery?

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Since DD (2.6) has started nursery we have had non stop illness in our house. DD brings it home, DP catches it, then I get it. Every bloody week. I can handle colds but we've all had the most hideous chest infection for weeks and now we have rotavirus. It seems that not a week goes by without something or the other.

I know it really helps with her development and she loves nursery but I am at my wits end. I am also 7 weeks pregnant so feel like crap generally anyway.

Am I imagining that this nursey is a plague pit or is this toddlerhood? Would she be better off with a childminder?

Welcome to toddlerhood! We had a year of on and off illness before DD's immune system kicked in.

It would still happen at a childminders.

Is she on mutivitamins? I have a liquid tonic that I get out when bugs aren't clearing up and it really helps them.
My ds has only been in nursery since September and has only had a couple of mild colds, ds2 has never been in nursery and is always full of germs. I don't think a childminder would be any better.

Feeling your pain. Although thankfully this week I've already had chicken pox.

I'm afraid it happens. Our lo is at two childcare places and one activity group a week and we're always fighting bugs!

I wouldn't stop her having fun and mixing though.

There will be less illness if she goes to a childminder. Fewer children, fewer staff, fewer germs to share!

DD went to preschool aged 3.7, having not been around many children beforehand and she'd barely had a sniffle. I also stopped bfing at 3.4. She had in the few months she attended slapped cheek, chicken pox, coughs, colds, 5 ear infections, flu, 3 stomach upsets and other non-specific viruses. It was constant. BUT her immune system soon picked up and now she's at school she's rarely ill. She's missed 3 days total since starting. It was just unfortunate that it all happened at once.

An it happens. DS started playgroup just as dd was born. We all spent a year ill. He has been in school for a year now and only been off sick for two days. There are lots of bugs still going around and lots of his friends are always off(it seems). But they never caught much on pre school. His immune system seems to be really good. I am glad we got it out the way!

A year??!!

DD started nursery in January and we've been ill ever since. I was hoping it would clear up before long.

From experience I know this is awful, if it's any consolation I'm with thecunning, my DS has a cracking immune system now thanks to licking other children and putting toys in mouth that had previously been in 20 other children's mouths. They either get all the bugs at nursery or they start with it in primary school.

It's fairly inevitable. You'll either get all the bugs when they start nursery, or wait a while and get them all when they start school.

I hope you all feel better soon, hopefully the summer months will see fewer bugs doing the rounds.

Obviously it was a year on and off . It just feels like a year all in!!!

This always happens, if you don't go to nursery, your child and you just end up getting ill throughout the whole of reception. It's the way your child build up their immune system, we had it like you've described with DS but with DD she had most of the bugs as she was a baby when DS was at nursery so she has only had two days off this nursery year, compared to the months her brother had off in total because of coughs/colds etc.

DD Has been at nursery for 14 months, the bugs have caused four hospital stays so far, but I cooing to the vague hope it is helping her immune system. She is still BF, has had near constant ear infections and now has glue ear. It is never ending.

My DD goes to two toddler groups a week and seems to constantly have a runny nose, or a cough, or a chest infection etc I took her up the doctors in the end as I was sure it wasn't normal. First thing doctor asks was if she went to any groups? When I said yes he said "you have two choices, you can keep taking her to all these groups and let her get it out of her system, or you can keep her away until she starts school, but she'll miss the first year coz she'll catch everything going"
Gotta love a straight talking GP with a PFB mam lol

Thanks for the responses everyone. I guess I am going to have to grit my teeth and bear it. At least I know it's completely normal and not down to my hygiene routine which is what I was beginning to think. Good luck to everyone and lets hope we all survive toddlerhood.

I was going to say what everyone else has already said! It's now or reception year I'm afraid :(

Sort out some suitable vitamins for you all and ride the wave!

I think it is wise to be sensible, ensure as much as possible that everyone is eating well, maybe sort out a multivitamin (I have been ill since the start of february with one cold or another and now hitting the Vit C) and ensure hygiene is adhered to.

I was left seething last week when I dropped DD at nursery to find another child's mum dropping her off and this baby was really ill, in the ten minutes I was there (had to sign some paperwork) she screamed and the mum just said to give her calpol. I then saw the mum again with a prescription for antibiotics which she was taking in. We have in the past been informed that DD has to be on AntiB's for 24 before the staff will give them and as for the fact the staff themselves were left bemused as to why the mum would leave such an I'll child I felt they should have spoken up. Plus the mum snarled at DD to 'move out the way' when taking her shoes off. I hitched my judgey pants right up before ringing DH and debating if we should take DD out that day in order to keep her well!

Dd 1 is six now and hasn't had to have a day off school yet, halfway through year one (she has been ill a couple of times but in the hols!). But between eighteen months and three she seemed to be ill all the time. I think your gp is pretty wise about it tbh. A child with no underlying health issues which could well make them more susceptible to stuff however much they've been exposed will build up their immune system by their exposure to bugs.