First baby due soon. Have read a fair bit about attachment parenting, baby-wearing, exclusive breastfeeding etc, (all that hippy guff:) and am happy to try go down that route. If some of it works, it works, if not.. we'll try other things, but at the moment I like the biologically-based rationale behind it.
My MIL is generally lovely, but very old-school. She believes firmly in sleep-training, leaving to cry (not spoiling them,) has told DH that baby should move into its own room straight away (because she and FIL slept better that way) and just generally knocks down every decision DH and I have jointly agreed on.
She doesn't do this in front of me, but DH comes home from visits repeating what she's said. He says that she just 'smirks and chuckles' when he mentions what we've decided to try, which I find quite rude.
She recently offered to buy us a sling for the baby and asked us what we'd like. We pointed her in the direction of a soft sling that we could use for a while, but she didn't like the style and so went and bought a structured Babybjorn type thing without consulting us. She was then really upset when DH told her thank you, but it isn't really what we wanted as we'd like to carry the baby up to toddler age. This conflicted with the 'anti-spoiling' policy and she had a bit of a rant down the phone, which I overheard.
I understand that she's done it all before, but things have moved on. I know she's only sharing because she's trying to help us, but I'm a bit concerned with the extremity of her reaction about the sling. We haven't heard from her since (a week), though DH handled it really calmly and made it clear we were really grateful but we'd have to change it.
Just worried that this is a sign of things to come. I don't want to cause any rifts before baby is even born.